When you're upset, or in discomfort, and feel less than that, simply become bigger than the upset, pain or discomfort.
Become bigger than the people involved, the pettiness, the anger, the stupidity. When you contract, all these appear.
When you expand and become bigger, all these petty things do not appear. Just become bigger.
And everything is handleable and small. Its when you become smaller that things look much bigger than you and control you.