A cute movie set in Ratnagiri about a philanthropic astrologer nd his beloved cycle and how a couple of thieves steal it. Both the astrologer and the thieves grow in the process.
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2018. Spike Lee. John David Washington. Adam Driver.
Based on the autobiography of the same name by the real Ron Stallworth, it shows the events that follow the first black detective in Colorado Springs Police Force who infiltrates the KKK and exposes it. Can't beat real stories ever.
This one was huge. Anjali was taking some help from Shobha about a Hindi lesson. Shobha gave her some feedback in her normal straightforward fashion. Anjali handled it well and then said - 'I have become better at taking feedback haven't I?' she said. 'Not like earlier when I would get upset if someone corrected me.'
I do remember that phase when she would get upset when corrected. I react like that to feedback and I now know how important it is to keep ourselves aside and listen to feedback without taking it personally. I feel now that it is the single most important characteristic one has to develop for growth.
So I was thrilled to hear the progress Anjali made and butted in and told her that it was wonderful that she has learned to adapt, to take feedback without taking it personally. I have been noticing how she changed over the past year, laughing off anything that normally upsets her, but the fact that she worked on taking feedback consciously was very interesting.
I asked her. 'How did you learn? What made you change?'
Then she said something even more interesting.
'Nanamma,' she said. I was taken aback. My mother? She never met my mother who passed away in 2002. Anjali was born in 2007.
'I saw her school leaving certificate,' said Anjali. 'It's written there that one of Nanamma's good traits was to take feedback well. I thought I could also do that.'
Wow. Thanks Mom. You're still influencing us even now. And well done Anjali. That's serious growth mindest for you. Fantastic trait to pick up. Good fro you.
The other day I was doing a Zoom session with a company. I had some issues with video sharing and was not getting it right. When I ran out of ideas I had to resort to Anjali's expertise and she helped me out. Not once or twice but three of four times.
She'd come instantly and help me calmly despite my hassled state. And then she would tell me not to panic or worry. After one such small crisis, I realised she had not left the room and was watching me continue the class. She looked at me and gave me a thumbs up. After I got into the flow of the class she came and gave me a high five and whispered 'Good Nanna,' you're doing great.'
Even after I finished the program and was wondering if it went well, she came up and gave me another high five. 'Well done Nanna. Good job.'
You need people like that on your team. Those who support and encourage you wholeheartedly whatever happens. It makes the experience bearable, better.
Thanks Anjali. Big help.
2018. Subodh Bhave, Sonali Kulkarni.
The biopic of Marathi superstar theatre actor Dr. Kashinath Ghanekar and his rollercoaster life. Engrossing. Subodh Bhave and Sonali Kukarni stand out. As does the young actress Vaidehi and Nandita Dhuri. Watch.
2020. Alankrita Shrivastava. Konkona Sen. Bhumi Pednekar.
Two cousins from Darbangha, Bihar land up in the Shanghai of India, Greater Noida and fall prey to the demands of the rapidly moving world around them. Money, bigger houses, jobs with salaries, perks, gadgets, need for relationships, need to be with the in-crowd, need to try everything out.
Difficult relationships? Change your energy, change the relationship.
Canteen Fundas: There's a reason they say #GoodVibesOnly, here's what we found
'Bhaiyya, we attended a webinar today,’ said Rinku. ‘Relationship expert Neelima Krishna spoke about managing difficult relationships.’
‘She said we’re all energetically connected,’ said Rahul. ‘Which means we can change the quality of our relationships by changing the quality of our energy. It’s like tuning into different radio channels and getting different music.’
‘Really?’ asked Rakesh. ‘How?’
‘She gave an example of a young cricketer who had a difficult relationship with his coach,’ said Rinku. ‘Despite his best efforts, he’d find fault with him. The boy wanted to give up.’
‘We all have difficult relationships like that with bosses and friends,’ said Rakesh. ‘Hopeless case. Best to change the coach.’
‘Ma’am said that if we change our coach but not our energy, we’ll have the same problems with the new coach,’ said Rahul. ‘It’s like changing the radio but tuning into the same channel.’
‘Then?’ asked Rakesh.
‘In fact, she said we cannot change anyone,’ said Rahul. ‘The only person we can change is ourselves. We vibrate on energy frequencies ranging from shame and guilt right up to peace, love and joy. So, instead of blaming others, we need to first look at the thoughts we’re entertaining and transmitting to others.’
‘In this case I’d feel victimised, angry and frustrated with the coach,’ said Rakesh. ‘And at some point, give up.’
‘Absolutely, bhaiyya,’ said Rahul. ‘By staying with low vibration thoughts, we stay stuck. For example, if our thoughts are tuned into a frequency that says ‘I don’t trust these people’, they’ll receive it at the same energy frequency and they’ll repeat the same behavioural pattern. And we think, ‘See, I can’t trust them’. The relationship gets stuck and deteriorates. We only hurt ourselves.’
‘Oh,’ said Rakesh. ‘How then?’
‘Change the channel, bhaiyya,’ laughed Rinku. ‘To change our energy, we need to tune into thoughts with higher vibration such as love, gratitude and forgiveness. The simplest way is to focus on whatever’s good in the relationship, however small, and be grateful for whatever the coach has taught you. When we do that, our energy changes from being angry to being grateful. We transmit a higher vibe energy and break the pattern.’
‘Wow!’ said Rakesh. ‘So, we tune out of bad frequencies and tune into better frequencies. And, the best part is, we’re doing it for our good. Not for anyone else.’
‘Yes, bhaiyya,’ said Rinku. ‘In this case, ma’am said that the coach’s behaviour may change or the boy may find a better coach. Either way, his experience changes for the better.’
‘Thanks, dudes,’ said Rakesh. ‘I feel a strong vibe for coffee now.’
Pro Tip: To change the energy in a relationship, change your energy first. Gratitude, love and forgiveness are powerful tools that can change your relationships and your experiences.
It's interesting to check yourself on this one. How many people are you comfortable asking for anything? The comfort you had in asking your mother or the special friend or sibling for anything that you wanted. Many times, the fact that you can ask someone and they will indulge you is itself is a huge validation a feeling as good as actually getting it.
|Ask and the world gives - Pic Satish Nargundkar|
I found that I have great difficulty in asking people for anything. I wasn't always like this - I think I was pretty good at it when I was young but then slowly lost it. I love the way some of my friends, siblings ask for anything. Buy me that gift, said my brother last year and we all pooled in and bought him a nice gift he wanted. Take us out to buy sarees say my sisters and I take them out. I'm coming over so keep yourself free say my friends and I keep myself free. But I find that I have little want for anything and there are times when I ask - maybe a book, some clothes, a trip, a coffee even - or something that I have been wanting to do and I find it difficult to ask. Sometimes I ask and then cancel it myself.
Like the coconut water example. This was in Goa, in 2012. Vidyuth and I were driving every day from Panaji to Margoa to watch some matches. Every day on the way back I would see these coconut sellers and think 'I'd like to drink coconut water' and then I'd cancel my order and the moment was gone. On the fourth day I told Vidyuth as we passed that spot - Viddu, you know every day I have been thinking of drinking coconut water but cancel it in my head. Vidyuth was shocked and turned the car around and stopped at the coconut vendor and we had coconut water. That's how lousy I am at taking care of myself, at asking for what I want. It goes for small things like that - tea, coffee, biscuits, samosas, stuff to order in restaurants, clothes to pick, always second-guessing, always settling.
If I can't indulge myself, how can I ask anyone else?
But it's an important quality I feel, this ability to ask unhesitatingly. At best we may get a No, but that need not deter us from asking. It's also a way of saying I trust you enough to take your No. But we don't have enough of such people we can ask and I feel that is something one needs to improve on.
I need to improve on. Something I am learning.
I met Anil Mittal, or Annie as I used to call him, when I first was selected to play for the state Junior state team in 1984. It was my second-year Intermediate and I was least expecting to play Under 25 because I had only played Under 15 for the state and South zone two years ago. After a year of faring normally in the A division for MCC, I had a great season in 1984 getting wickets against all bank teams. I knew of Anil as the fast bowler who played for SBI and who had once been a junior India fast bowler and was regarded highly by his peers. Anil was next in line to make his Ranji debut, having ticked all the boxes.
But something happened and I suspect it was an injury and Anie lost much of his pace. In the Under 25 nets I found him welcoming as he smiled and made me comfortable. he bowled off his run up and focussed more on swing than pace. I thought that was how one must bowl in Under 25 level and I bowled gently too. Our skipper Manohar watched me for a few balls and asked me why I was bowling slow. I said Anil was pitching up and making the ball swing and perhaps I should do that. Manu told me to bowl normally and let Anil do his thing. Annie and I laughed about it later.
But that was how highly I looked up to him. Ever since that game he was always Annie to me and I was always Harry to him. He would always meet me with a warm smile and a thing or two to say and I could always expect a straight and gentle answer from him. Annie lost out on the Ranji spot perhaps due to that back injury or whatever injury bothered him and he never played. I played a few games and I am sure if Annie had been fully fit I would have had to wait my turn. We played against one another in league matches and had a good time.
My best memory of Annie however was in a match organised by All Saints High School where All Saints played against Rest of Hyderabad, with Azhar, Narasimha Rao, Shivlal, Arshad, Venkatapathi and others We played on opposing sides -- Annie for Rest and me for All Saints. The match came down to the wire. 18 were needed in the last two overs and we had only two wickets in hand. I walked in with little hope because Annie had the ball in his hand and had just got a wicket. I missed a couple ten threw my bat at a ball that was in reach. It connected and flew over mid on for four. Annie came up and bowled another and I flung my bat again and it connected and I got another four. Suddenly we were back in the game. And then, having despatched two good balls to the fence I fell to one outside my off stump and ended up being caught behind. Annie had got his revenge.
The next over, Vidyuth faced his brother Vivek and scored nine runs including an exquisite cover drive to seal the game and we won. I feel I made a significant contribution that day. Of course I'll always be thankful for Annie not to have bounced at me after the first four.
Many lovely memories of the gentle fast bowler and I knew he was coaching. I would see his loving posts on Facebook about his trips, his family, and he was such a devoted family man. Even about his wards. There aren't many like him around. When Noel put up a message last week that he was no more I was shocked. I called him and Noel said he wasn't well for a while. Abhiram messaged me from Bangalore asking me what happened and he recalled him fondly.
Wherever he has gone, Annie will surely make is a warm and affectionate place. Was brilliant knowing you Annie. Rest in peace old friend. You will always be missed.
If what Naomi Osaka did at the US Open represents the new generation, I am so happy for them. For her to wear headbands on seven different matches with the names of people who have been killed in racial violence, was a huge statement to make at this stage in her career. She did and carried it off with grace and elegance.
Well done Naomi, sometimes you need to show you are more than a sportsperson. You need to show you are human. After hearing the same cliches spouted by sportsmen over the years it was refreshing to see this.
In the course of an hour, I was converted from an apathetic watched to a huge fan. Go girl!
Separate the action from the person!
If trust is the key to flow, love is the key to trust. It may sound paradoxical that we should first love to trust but that's the truth. And when we cannot trust, we cannot love others, its time to point the finger back at ourselves and say - hey where do I not love myself.
Then the story unravels. It is not about them. You always had a shortfall of love. You didn't love yourself enough and you project it on to others and hate the. Actually, when you don't love them or hate them, you're only hating yourself.
So the moment, you find yourself lacking trust, lacking love for the others, look within and be loving to yourself. Fill yourself with love and all will be well outside again.
Wow! It took me twenty years to realise that. Thanks Shobhs. Thanks Colin Tipping.
I loved the ucky Luke comics when I was young. I guess our Colony's Best Library was the one who got me hooked on to it. I distinctly remember my father being quite amused by the talking horse and he would read it with more interest than I would. So when I got my hands on a 4 in 1, I could not resist it and bought it.
Lucky Luke and his wisecracking steed Jolly go out into the wild west and perform heroic deeds with the elan of pros. Four delightful stories - The Alibi, The Bridge on the Mississippi, The Pony Express and Ghost Hunt.
Good fun. Took me back to those Colony's Best Library days.
I loved this. Timothy Paul, my old friend, sent this.
Super cute. Human souls transitioning to a space station where they heal them and send them forward. I liked the fact that they attempted this idea, made it fun and laughed about death, loneliness, attachment etc.
Vikram Massey and Shwetha Tripathi are super cute.
The key to flow is trust. We don't flow when we don't trust others, their reactions, the outcomes, ourselves basically.
But then trust is all about ourselves. True others can step up and make the place a trusting or mistrusting space, but in the end it's all about you and how much you trust yourself.
When you trust yourself, you will find it easier to trust others and when you find it easier to trust others you will find it easier to be in flow and when you are in flow, you find it easier to be happier and work better.
When you are struggling with flow, look at who you are not trusting. Then look at yourself and ask why you are not able to trust yourself? Why you are not capable of earning their trust? Then work on yourself - your trust with yourself.
These are not really stories but good stuff. I suspect these are his own thoughts.
7 lies that prevent you from succeeding in life There are some things that hold us back in our life. It can be our young age, our family or our friends. There are some times however, when even ourselves prevent us from succeeding in life. This happens because we keep believing negative things about ourselves, things that destroy our confidence. Here are 7 lies we keep telling to ourselves. This will help you find the truth!
1) "People will criticize me for being who I am." The truth is that there will be always people who will jugde you for being who you are. Especially if who you are is a successful person, people are jealous of. But why paying so much attention to other people's opinion? They might be jealous of you, they might want to hurt you, they might want to make you vulnerable or they might not like you at all. But there's no problem with that since we cannot be loved by everybody. So just be yourself and there will be always someone who will adore you for that!
2) "I can't trust anyone, because they might betray me" We all have known at least one person who betrayed us, but that doesn't mean that everyone isn't trustworthy. Try not to be suspicious with everyone. If you want to know what a person is really like, prejudging will only blur the picture for you. Of course you should be careful and try not to trust everyone you meet but that doesn’t mean that all these people aren’t trust-worthy. Moreover, how do you expect to form a meaningful relationship with anyone, if you are not open to the world? Trust freely but be smart enough to know how to handle the toxic people in your life.
3) "I won't fall in love because I am afraid of getting my heart broken." Love and pain are two sides of the same coin, two very important lessons in life that both need to be taken. Through love, you'll also get pain. But there will be also happy moments as well. Without love, there are no happy moments. There is loneliness which is painful as well, and even more. So don't hesitate to fall in love. There are certain things you're going to lose, but in the end you are going to be a winner.
4) "It's too late to follow my dreams." There are moments in life when you feel disappointed with the current situation you are in and it is likely that this can cause negative emotions like the feeling of being too old to try for something. But it's this belief that is limiting you, not your age. The sooner you understand that, the sooner you’ll recover from this emotional trap. The truth is, you have the power to do whatever you want with your life and if you don’t feel satisfied with your current situation, you can change it for the better. It is never too late to make your dreams come true, the important thing is to take action.
5) "I will always be failing at achieving my goals." Failure isn't as bad as you think. What you need to realize is that failure is just a steppingstone to success. So if you stop being afraid of failure, then you'll grow stronger. The most important thing to do after each fall is to rise and try again. Each failure takes you one step closer to your goal. Through failure we have the opportunity to grow stronger and learn new life lessons.
6) "I can't ask for what I want because I fear rejection" It's true that you can fail at what you want and it's also a fact that many times you'll get a "No" as an answer. But that does not mean that there are going to be only failures. Plus, if you never try, then you have already failed! Find the courage and ask for what you want from life. You might get it.
7) "I am not that strong to reach success" This is a very dangerous trap. By losing your confidence and not believing in yourself and your abilities, you actually risk of losing the chance to follow your dreams. On the contrary, if you tell yourself that it is your destiny to be succesful, you can make a begin. The things that separate successful and unsuccessful people are that successful people believe in themselves and they don’t fear failure. They know that it is all up to them to make things work for them which gives a big drive for success. So just believe it!
Another one from Pawan. I've seen these before, but they are good to capture in this collection.
Another One from Pawan's collection.
Watch Your Thoughts - Don't Get Into the Drama
Pawan forwarded me some wonderful stories, one of which seemed so appropriate that I want to use it in a story I am writing. It's titled 'Leap of Faith'.
|Leap of Faith - Pic Satish Nargundkar|
"A Leap of Faith" - Short Story
I get these short forwards that are priceless. Today Sreenu sent me these small stories about what young children thought love was.
What does love means to 4-8 year old kids? A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, 'What does love mean?
And finally, after reading hundreds of books, Anjali picked up 'The Men Within' to read and she did appear to like it. One day one, she said 'Nanna, you're an awesome writer' and I was pretty thrilled with that. She's a quick reader and pretty soon she was at the end of the book - and that's where she is suddenly parked. I can't wait for her to finish reading but she is taking her own time with the last 30 pages - the climax - the part where the action really hots up.
Anyway, I am glad she got this far and seems to have a favourable impression so far. I am hoping she might give me some kind of a review after she reads it.
Interestingly they are both of the same vintage - 2007. TMW was born in March 2007 and Anjali in October 2007!
2018. Tamil award-winning film. Priya Krishnaswamy.
An old watchman has an accident and breaks his hip. His nephews try to get him treated but his son who lives in a village nearby does not want to spend any money on his treatment. In a few days the old man dies. It is found that there is a tradition in those villages in which they kill the old people off who they think are a burden. 26 ways to kill them, the police know about it, everyone knows about it. So bad is it that when an old person gets a headache they run away. Fabulous film. Watch.