Think about it. If you are talking about something, or feel the need to defend your position on it, it needs attention. It's what they call an 'issue'. A chip on the shoulder.
All other things do not bother you. You 'know' your stand with them and feel secure. It is with the things where you are on uncertain ground that we need more clarity. So we write, talk and defend.
A great example I heard on this. Will you react if someone calls you a purple pig? Not many of us would because we are certain we are not that. We are secure. A pig? It has its connotations and it might bother some of us because we are worried we may have some characteristics of the esteemed pig. Issues can then crop up - why do you call me a pig? I am not. In fact you are a pig etc.
The solution (as Eckhart Tolle says) is to accept the issue, with all its inherent deficiencies. As one would their own progeny. Then we stop talking, defending. (Yes, I am a pig, purple or whatever, if that is what you can see! Thank you for your contribution.)
The issue really is with feeling a gap between perfection and you. But to get back to our issue, watch out for that behavior first.
As Colin Tipping, author of Radical Forgiveness says, "If you spot it, you got it". Brilliant,
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All other things do not bother you. You 'know' your stand with them and feel secure. It is with the things where you are on uncertain ground that we need more clarity. So we write, talk and defend.
A great example I heard on this. Will you react if someone calls you a purple pig? Not many of us would because we are certain we are not that. We are secure. A pig? It has its connotations and it might bother some of us because we are worried we may have some characteristics of the esteemed pig. Issues can then crop up - why do you call me a pig? I am not. In fact you are a pig etc.
The solution (as Eckhart Tolle says) is to accept the issue, with all its inherent deficiencies. As one would their own progeny. Then we stop talking, defending. (Yes, I am a pig, purple or whatever, if that is what you can see! Thank you for your contribution.)
The issue really is with feeling a gap between perfection and you. But to get back to our issue, watch out for that behavior first.
As Colin Tipping, author of Radical Forgiveness says, "If you spot it, you got it". Brilliant,
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On the positive side, thanks to Wodehouse, Pigs Have Wings!
Ah, Wodehouse. Raja, you should watch some of the Jeeves episodes on you tube - I think a BBC production. Good fun and a nice way to get into that world.
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