Wednesday, April 29, 2026
Thought for the Day - Free Flow and Ego
Tuesday, April 28, 2026
Daksha School - Talk with Teachers on Goal Setting and Importance of Feedback
While discussing the importance of learning the art of giving and receiving feedback as a tool for constant improvement with Anita, we decided to do a short intervention of both goal setting and the importance of feedback for the teachers. There were about 40 of them, many of whom had taught Anjali when she was a student of the school - Sarita, Rohini, Sirisha, Sangeeta, Kamakshi and so on. It was good to meet them. While introducing me Anita reminded me of the time when we sat on the terrace of their house and thought up names for the school - 20 years ago - just before she launched the school. We started with Dakshata and then shortened it to Daksha. And then Anjali studied in the same school as well. Time flies!
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| Talking to the teachers at Daksha |
Anyway I gave the teachers an introduction to the golden circle - the Why, How and What - and said we would be doing some small segments of the entire workshop that I do. We decided to work on everybody's Why - their purpose which would give them greater commitment and motivation when they work. To do the best for students, bring the best out of them to build great leaders, build a wonderful society and world were some of the options thrown up as a purpose to their work which is otherwise very fulfilling. I wish I could have dwelt longer but I had little time so we moved on.
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| Feedback exercise |
The next topic was goal setting and I told them about the importance of writing goals - that it gives clarity, something for our subconscious to aim for, something for us to prepare proactively for. I explained the concept of SMART goals and took a few examples while they all wrote down a 20 year list of goals on career, finance, relationships, material wealth and spiritual growth. the idea was to write down 10 year goals, 5 year goals, 1 year goals so they have a complete map ahead. I urged them to dream big and work for it and not go for small goals. The examples gave some clarity on how one must see a picture, a name, have a number or a visual. I told them to diligently do the work on the other time frames later.
We then moved on to discussing the importance of giving and taking feedback and how it helps the student and teacher to grow. Even teachers should have a system of feedback from students, peers and other stakeholders so they can be ranked and rated too. I told them to keep feedback focused on its purpose which is to make the person aware of the issue and work on improvement. I explained that it cannot be dumped as a one off but couched in the entire context of the effort that the person is putting in and then delivered so they receive it well - they know you are not criticising them but are coming from a place of understanding their journey and will work on it. I also suggested that they end their feedback by setting a high expectation which the student will try to achieve.
About when to praise and when to give negative feedback I suggested that they look at the person and their stage - if the person is not confident and doe snot know the process its best to give only positive reinforcement. Praise only progress and leave out the negatives. That way the person will try to repeat the positive behaviors and will improve. Once a person reaches a stage where they are confident and know the process, then, if they are erring or not giving their best, they can be given feedback to improve.
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| A lovely gift - Daksha elephant with a green message |
I made them do a feedback exercise where everyone gave one person good feedback in terms of three nice things. The room was up and buzzing with a lot of energy. Good stuff.
Anita gave me chai and a lovely gift, a Daksha elephant (their logo) with a plant, and a box of brownies. We discussed topics such as Mindset which would help and thought we could plan them sometime later. Very satisfying. I asked for some feedback and will post the same when I get it.
Feedback from some of the participants - thank you all:
1) The Why-What-How flow was so clear.The long-term goals part with the SMART sheet was super practical.Breaking big goals into specific, measurable steps was exactly needed.
My takeaway from today’s workshop :-I’m starting this week by rewriting my term goals and work consistently towards achieving them.
Thank you ma’am for an insightful session.
It was really motivating and a clear concept of how to reach your goal. Feedback session was much needed for all.
2) It was really motivating and a clear concept of how to reach your goal. Feedback session was much needed for all.
Thank you Anita maam and Mr.Hari for this sessiob
3) The session on Goal Setting, SMART Techniques, and the Art of Giving and Receiving Feedback was highly educational and thought-provoking.
The session also highlighted how meaningful feedback, when given constructively and received positively, can become a powerful tool for professional growth.
4) Good morning Mam, The session on goal setting and giving feedback was highly informative and engaging. It provided clear strategies for stating realistic and achievable goals. I felt the practical tips on delivering constructive and effective feedback were very useful. The interactive activity made the concepts easy to understand and apply.
Thank you Mam and Hari Mohan Sir for the session.
5) The session was thoughtful for self.
My take away is writing up the goals using SMART tools. Liked Specific among SMART TOOLS
Thank you Anita Ma'am
6) The session was engaging and well-structured, with practical frameworks and interactive activities. My take away from the session is writing down our goals which increases commitment and keeps you accountable and helps turn intentions into results.
Thank you ma'am
7) Today’s session on SMART goal setting was very useful for me. It helped me to learn how to set clear and achievable goals. Taking and giving feedback should be accepted as it is a chance to grow, improve, and do better next time—for ourselves and for the children too.
8) Today's session was thoughtful. It helped me introspect and motivated me to set specific goals and work towards them seriously. Thank you for such an impactful session. Thank you Hari sir & Anita ma'am!
9) Feedback for Hari sir: Hari Mohan Sir is considerate and jovial. His patience in helping us understand the process of setting goals is appreciable.😊
10) Thank you, Hari Sir and Anitha Ma’am. I really enjoyed the session on goal setting. We all have goals, but yesterday’s workshop helped us understand how to set them effectively using the SMART method. It made me realize how important it is, especially for us as teachers, to seek feedback from others and continuously improve ourselves. I also learned that giving constructive feedback to children is equally important for their growth. This session was truly valuable and insightful.
11) Today's workshop for me was engaging and Goal setting concept was something new and practical. Taking and giving feedback with a positive mindset is equally important for our growth and equally applicable when dealing with children.Thankyou so much.
Sunday, April 26, 2026
Short Workshop With Young Cricketers - Imperial Cricket Club
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| A cute memento |
Hyderabad by Walk - Naya Qila
| Mulla Khayali Masjid |
Hyderabad by Walk - Salar Jung Museum
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| The museum |
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| Old relic |
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| Old fire engine |
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| Asaf Jah 1 - The first Nizam |
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| Shah Jahan shooting deer - he cannot miss from there |
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| Death of Shahjahan with Princess Jahanara - Taj Mahal in the background |
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| Abdullah Qutb Shah - 7th Qutb Shah Sultan |
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| Tana Shah - the last Qutb Shah Sultan |
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| Minister Madanna who served Abdullah Qutb Shah |
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| Madanna brother of Akkanna |
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| Scene from the Gita |
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| How did Laila fall for Majnu? |
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| The Gita |
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| The Mahabharata |
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| Quran in different shapes and styles |
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| Ghalib's manuscript |
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| Veiled Rebecca |
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| Masjid-e-Salarjung |
Friday, April 24, 2026
The Paradoxes of Our Lives - True Happiness Lies Somewhere Tilted Towards 'What Is' than 'What Could Have Been'
Thought for the Day - Why We Allow Only Some to Hurt Us
Wednesday, April 22, 2026
Adieu Mr.Subaraman - Boss, Mentor and an Unforgettable Human Being
We had four bosses in BDD those days in the mid 90s and I worked with three of them during my time in IDBI, Mumbai. Mr Subaraman was easily the boss with the most energy, the most mischief, the most intelligence and most fun. He was the kind of a boss who would show up in the list of bosses who made a positive impact on your career, someone you would always stay in touch, someone you could call up for advice or just to hear an encouraging word. He is in my list for sure and am sure in the list of many of my colleagues.
| Mr Subaraman deep in thought (probably thinking of how to improve something that was said or done) |
The first thing I remember about him was his smiling face, his boundless energy, his fun demeanour. He had a sharp brain, understood people well and their limitations and motivated them accordingly, rarely lost his temper and was always ready for a laugh.
In my early days at IDBI Mumbai, I would go early to work and try my hand at poetry - a poem a day was my challenge for a while - until one day Mr Subaraman came to my desk (he always did that, never summoned us by phone to his room which had a magnificent view of the Arabian Sea from the 14th floor of the WTC Tower) to drop off a paper. He read my poem, asked me a couple of questions about it and with all seriousness advised me to stop writing poems. 'They are depressing,' he told me. I continued writing of course and would pull his leg about it for many years - that he throttled a young poet's voice then and there. He would laugh and repeat - but they were depressing.
I would like to believe that he had a particular liking to our bunch of friends - Parag, Mony, Mahender and me - and would always exclaim - you guys are so tall. But then, we all looked up to him and I am sure he knew that. His relationship with Mahender was very different - Mahender, the deep, taciturn, witty Haryanvi and Mr Subaraman, the genial, full of beans Tamilian. We would all have a laugh after one of their famous discussions. He had a very academic relationship with Mony who as a CA rank holder perhaps understood finance like he did. Parag he had a lot of respect for because somehow Parag commands respect by his very presence and with me, we were mostly shooting the breeze because that was what I was good at. Since three of us were in the IDBI cricket team (Parag, Mony and me) he would tell us stories of the days he would play cricket - if I remember right he fancied himself as an off spinner. He must have been good with his guile and his way of foxing people.
| The picture by Landmark Bookstore guys - Immensely grateful |
Professionally he had one of the clearest minds I have seen - he understood finance well, he understood business and marketing and he understood human nature. Not many were good at so many aspects of managing businesses - it's just a sign of intelligence. For example, he would encourage me to go on client visits in Bombay which was unheard of then (but which is such a basic thing when you're marketing anything). He always did what was good for the institution - no hanky panky. As a boss he would take time to mentor you, understand your limitations and give you inputs from there, was very patient and mostly fun. He made the grind of the work bearable with his happy demeanour.
He wrote an article with Mony, a very academic one which I would never have read but which made sense enough for the Economic Times to publish it. It was sent to the PMO and the FMO I hear. Quite an achievement and I remember him being quite excited about it.
He could simplify things in his own way to explain to the level of intelligence - one day he told me that we must understand industry like we understand a dosa stall - what's capex, what working capital, what's debt. what's equity. I used that analogy for ever in my classes (still use it, copyright Mr Subaraman). He could also complicate things and ask me stuff like what this ratio meant when used with another ratio and I am like sir, I can barely calculate this ratio right why are you asking me these questions. He would laugh and say, but you should know these things. Never with a 'how come you don't even know this' but with a 'I challenge you to learn this and believe you can'. That's a sign of a great motivator, someone who can always think of interesting ways to challenge you and make you feel equal to the task. He would have made a great coach, teacher.
I remember how he would deal with clients. If they came with some political pressure etc he would first put them in place by asking questions like - why is your company named so and so. It was a simple question but it gave an insight into their mindset. (I used that a lot later on, still use it.) He would be quite direct and sharp if they fooled around. I remember one time he went with our colleague Sati to recover some money from a client to Calcutta and was told that the concerned man was not in office. He figured they were fooling him so he came outside and hid behind a pillar or something and caught that guy when he stepped out of the office later! It's exactly the kind of stuff he was capable of doing.
And oh, he would get wild with any client who was lax enough to pronounce his name wrong - it is Subaraman not Subbaraman - only one b and not two, he would reprimand them severely! Many a promoter went red in the face trying to get it right, more so the gentlemen who were not from the South who squirmed and died to pronounce it right. I can still visualise him doing that.
Another time, he and I went to visit a windmill farm in Andhra Pradesh which had some 20-25 metre high windmills. He decided we should climb up the ladder inside the windmill. It was a tough, vertical climb and all we had were rungs to hold on to, but he climbed. As a sportsman who was still playing some amount of cricket I found it difficult but not my boss who was all smiles at the top of that swaying tower! With him you could always expect the unexpected.
I came away to Hyderabad after our division was shut but kept in touch with him. When I quit I told him. When he came to Hyderabad to meet Ravindra, another colleague of ours, he called me over to chat and I went to Ravindra's house and met him.
When I visited Chennai for the launch of my first book launch in 2008, I invited him and he was glad to come all the way from Tiruvanmiyur to Mount Road at Nungambakkam, where Landmark Bookstore was. He said he would not buy the book and I was like sir, you have to buy, otherwise how will I make any money. Anyway he was adamant and made me buy my own book and gift it to him which was his guru dakshina and I was glad to do that because I learned so much from him. Even gladder that Landmark people took some pictures and he is there in the audience which is the only picture of his that I have. He read the book and gave me his feedback - this time very positive unlike his opinions of my poems. The next time I went for a book launch to Chennai for '50 Not Out' I invited him but he was away on some consulting work.
I kept updating Mr Subaraman of all the developments in my life - would call him every time in Chennai, even from Hyderabad at times. He would be very happy to hear from me and asked about my friends, my writing. He would always end with a positive word, a pat on the back, so you came away with a smile. I do not remember calling many other bosses like that. Of course I would send him copies of my books when I could.
| The book launch event - R Mohan, renowned sports journalist, K Srikkanth, former Indian cricket captain, me and Late VB Chandrasekhar, former Indian cricketer and dear friend |
Last I spoke to him was about a year ago when Parag came to visit me in Hyderabad. He was in Bengaluru then and he was happy to hear from us. And last year when Mony and I were in Chennai we spoke about him - don't know if we called him though.
I am sure Mr Subaraman had enough going on in his life, but he would never tell us of his troubles and bore them alone and with a smile. There's so much to say and so many things to write but enough to say that Mr Subaraman, you've made a deep impact on me as you must have on so many more and I believe there's no better way to live a life. Every extra moment you spent explaining something, showing something through your actions, teaching, giving feedback, asking a question, challenging us, being eternally curious about life - every bit made a difference. And I hope to imbibe some of it which is the best way to remember you.
This morning I heard from Sati that Mr Subaraman had moved on after a brief illness. Adieu, Mr Subaraman. It was such a pleasure knowing you. And for sure, I will not write a poem or a depressing note about you - I know you would not like it. You always wanted the world to be sunny and that's the way it should be.

























