How does one be spontaneous in one's acts? How does one practice that?
To me the connection seems to come from being true to one's emotions. To feel them as they come without suppressing them. Just as children do. Feel the emotion and react to it. The moment is gone, the emotion is gone, and its all over. Spontaneity has its benefits of living the moment and the emotion, and getting it over and done with.
For example, a momentary flash of anger at someone who carelessly dropped something on you could be expressed right then and got over with. Even if you speak to the person and express your displeasure to him or her, it is done. But on the other hand if you ignore that incident at that moment (not feeling your emotions right then) and keep it in your mind, criticising that person in your mind, criticising that person to others, it will remain for a much longer time in your mind and eat away at your mind.
By not being true to one's emotions and suppressing them, one loses far more than mere spontaneity. One can get lost in the thought and the label that one gives to these thoughts. Suppressed emotions could fester and show up later in weird
forms.
Feel the emotions and express them as they come up. No baggage. No labels. No resentment. No regrets. Every moment is fully lived and let go of. Every moment is a fresh moment.
It is perhaps a good way to enjoy life.
To me the connection seems to come from being true to one's emotions. To feel them as they come without suppressing them. Just as children do. Feel the emotion and react to it. The moment is gone, the emotion is gone, and its all over. Spontaneity has its benefits of living the moment and the emotion, and getting it over and done with.
For example, a momentary flash of anger at someone who carelessly dropped something on you could be expressed right then and got over with. Even if you speak to the person and express your displeasure to him or her, it is done. But on the other hand if you ignore that incident at that moment (not feeling your emotions right then) and keep it in your mind, criticising that person in your mind, criticising that person to others, it will remain for a much longer time in your mind and eat away at your mind.
By not being true to one's emotions and suppressing them, one loses far more than mere spontaneity. One can get lost in the thought and the label that one gives to these thoughts. Suppressed emotions could fester and show up later in weird
forms.
Feel the emotions and express them as they come up. No baggage. No labels. No resentment. No regrets. Every moment is fully lived and let go of. Every moment is a fresh moment.
It is perhaps a good way to enjoy life.
4 comments:
Hari, this is applicable especially when it comes to expressing your love to those who matter. Say it when you feel it.
Vinod
I am reminded of the story of two monks who were supposed to not touch women. One helps a woman cross a river, by carrying her. His companion questions him after a while about breaking rules, and the first monk replies, " I have forgotten about her but you are still carrying her."
So true Vinod. It really gladdens the heart when you are able to express love. Also I feel it gives one the liberty of saying 'No' when you feel like it which can be liberating as well.
Raja, that is the kind of a story one can never forget. One of my favorites. I think this short story by itself is enough to tell people how to be in the moment and how to be happy.
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