There are times in our life when we cannot decide - sometimes we know what we want to do and what is right but our conditioning and our fears hold us back and we are stuck. In such times it helps to have people around who can give you a gentle nudge - in the direction of what is good for you. Gentle. Because all that person needs is that nudge to go past her uncertainty, conditioning etc.
But many times we end up saying 'Hey, that's your decision. I cannot make it for you.'. It is true. But here is where it helps to understand this a bit.
There are some decisions that are some decisions that are already made - and we all know it. In such cases there is no point putting doubt into that person's head even though you know the pitfalls. The best thing to do in such cases is to fully support them and their decision and not put doubt into their heads.(For eg someone has to go somewhere new and we come up with 'hey its a dangerous place'. Its not going to help!)
There are some decisions where the person is trying to go past their fears and conditioning and are consumed by doubt at the end. It's here that the nudge helps. Gently. So the person goes past the doubt and moves into action. The person finds some support, some reason. (As in the samecase as above, if the person is going for the first time and is worried, we simple say, hey, its not a bad idea - do it. That little confidence will help that person overcome doubt and move ahead into what could possibly be a whole new life).
The nudge is very powerful. Most times we see people holding others back with their own fears and stuff. But when one realises the importance of the nudge, we realise how much it expands the other person's world.
Next time, you see an opportunity, try it. Gently nudge.
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