Thought for the Day - When Things Look Overwhelmingly Big, Break Them Down

Know that feeling when you felt nothing can happen? Nothing can be resolved? It's a gone case?

Always a way!

I have been guilty of spreading my helplessness over the entire situation, the person and saying nothing will work. When two people come to the table with serious differences or the situation offers little hope, we are probably being overwhelmed because we are fighting with the entire issue rather than only where the difference is.

If we have a problem with a person and say - 'you are always like that' - it is clearly not true. No person is 'always like that'. But if we break it up and find out in what circumstances that person behaves that way, we can address only that part. As long as we blame the entire person, we will never be able to resolve it. 

Similarly with situations. When they overwhelm us, we look at the whole and feel we cannot fix it. But if we look at what worked and what is not, break it up, then we can separate the parts that need attention and those that are ok. Then it becomes doable.

In our fear-based reaction, we make the problem bigger than it is and try to escape by blaming the entire person, or the situation. But if we can look at it without fear, look at the parts that are fine and those that need to be worked at, you can pretty much resolve anything. Things are generally good - only some parts need to be worked at.