The Paradoxes of Our Lives - To Be Something, Give Up Wanting to Be That

To be something, we must give up wanting to be that.

To be in control, give up the 'need to be in control'.
To be wealthy, give up the 'need to be wealthy'.
To be happy, give up the 'need to be happy'.

When I say I 'need to be happy' I am saying that I don't have it and that I will fight all that comes in the way of my happiness. My obsession with happiness (or in this case 'not having happiness' can endanger the very concept of being happy itself.

I cannot want it and have it at the same time. I either want it or have it. So I must decide whether I want a life of wanting. Or having. Or being.