eCanteen Fundas - Your Self-Worth Decides What You Get

 Your self-worth is your gateway  to receiving!

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E-Canteen Fundas: Are you worth it or not? Your self-worth decides what you allow into your life

My aunt wants me to bake a cake and charge for it,’ said Rinku. ‘I love baking but I’m very uncomfortable charging her for it.’

‘Watch out,’ laughed Rakesh. ‘You’ll end up with low self-worth if you don’t value yourself.’

‘How, bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku. ‘Giving free stuff is good, right?’

‘Self-worth is what you think you’re worth,’ said Rakesh. ‘When you don’t think you’re worth much, you treat yourselves poorly. You’re like a seller who doesn’t value his product — others won’t value it either. But if you know your worth and quote the right value, others value it too. To charge or not is your choice, but if you’re not because you feel unworthy, then you’re in trouble.’

‘Does low self-worth affect us, bhaiyya?’ asked Rinku. 

‘Your self-worth is your gateway,’ said Rakesh. ‘It determines all you get in your life. Low self-worth has a small gateway — it restricts your capacity to receive and hold on to love, material good, opportunities. Your self-worth affects everything.’’

‘But we have different capacities, right, bhaiyya?’ asked Rahul.

‘Nope,’ said Rakesh. ‘We’re all like hundred rupee notes that have the same intrinsic value whether we’re in a posh handbag or have been trampled upon. We’re worthy as we are equal.’

‘Whoa, how can we improve our self-worth?’ asked Rinku.

‘Since self-worth is your perceived worth, as you are, without external things, people or conditions, begin with accepting yourself exactly as you are,’ said Rakesh. ‘If external things make you feel unworthy, get over them — do test drives, sip coffee at star hotels, etc. Know you’re bigger than any external thing. Don’t deny yourself, have fun within your means. And start treating yourself like you’d treat someone with a healthy self-worth.

‘I was confusing low self-worth with humility,’ said Rinku. ‘And healthy self-worth with arrogance.’

‘You’re not demeaning anyone by treating yourself well. With a healthy self-worth, you don’t accept any less. So Rinku, quote a price that makes you feel good, that’s fun for you — and double it. Your aunt will love buying your customised cakes.’

‘Eight hundred rupees, bhaiyya, and no less,’ said Rinku. ‘And I’m already feeling really good about it too.’

Pro Tip: Your self-worth decides what you allow into your life. Increase your self-worth and treat yourself like you’re worthy, accept nothing less

Anjali - Happy Father's Day!

 Anjali is a great one for surprises and planning etc and is very old fashioned in that sense because she takes care to order what she wants in advance  so the gifts reach in time. I knew she would do something special and thoughtful as she always does and she did.

Happy Father's Day!

So the moment she woke up she gave me and hug and wished me a Happy Father's Day and handed me a gift wrapped in a shoe box covered with newspaper with some nice pictures cut out of the papers. There was this nice card she made, a yellow shirt made of card paper with the card inside wishing me. Inside the box was a book - 'The Plague' by Albert Camus with a message that she likes Camus and that she hoped I liked the book too. And there were five Pilot pens to do my writings which is so thoughtful of her again.

Of course Shobhs decided to make it special as well and ordered in some nice food from Hard Rock Cafe. And Prarthana, my niece, ordered some wonderful dessert for me from Pune.

Thanks you Anjali (and Shobha and Prarthana). For making it such a special day.  

No Country for Old Men - Movie

 2007. Coen Brothers. 10th best film of the 21st century.

Anjali - RIP Zindagi!

 We got the call from the PFA people today - that Zindagi finished her part in this life and moved on. It was expected, though I had some visions of a miraculous recovery. But then that's life and we have no control over many things and must accept them as they happen.

Zindagi - at home!

We decided to celebrate Zindagi's life - short - at 2 months. Give Akela, Sona and Zor something nice to eat too. Playfulness, that curiosity and mischief of Zindagi - that is what will always stay. 

Anjali - Recovering from Zindagi's Departure

 It left a bigger void than we thought,more so because it seemed so unfair that a young playful pup of two months is brutally bitten by a full grown dog. If nothing it shows us how unfair, unpredictable and cruel life can be. 

Zindagi 

The other two pups sensed it perhaps and were uncharacteristically whining outside the door at 12 in the night. Anyway by morning they had settled down (though I suspected Shobhs hadn't). Anjali was fine and when I asked her if she was ok she said - When I first decided to give Akela food, I knew that this was a short term thing and that I was not going to get attached to her or the pups. So its ok really.

Whatever it was, the day was rather muted. We couldn't get ourselves to call the PFA chaps to find out her condition. Maybe tomorrow.

Anjali - Zindagi Grievously Injured

 And this evening, the one thing we dreaded happened. The pups keep going off to play and forage outdoors and these days spend quite a bit of time outdoor. I set out for a walk at about 5 pm and all three followed me to the gate and outside and I could not resist taking a picture of them.

Sona, Zor and Zindagi seeing me off on my walk!

I came back an hour and half later and found Anjali, Vajra and Shobha around Zindagi. Apparently she had just been attacked by a big dog while she was playing outside and was in bad shape. She had deep bite marks on the side of her abdomen, deep enough for her to leave pools of blood, was in a state of shock and could not move when she tried to move her hind legs. A friend later told me that dogs commonly attack the spine and paralyse the ones they attack.

Zor and Sona came and slept alongside Zindagi. Shobha called the People for Animals and they were like god send again - this time their vehicle was at Kukatpalli and two young boys came in half and hour. They said it was perhaps paralysed but they would do some physiotherapy and it might recover. All information would come tomorrow when we speak to the vet.

Zindagi was bundled off into a carton, made as comfortable as she could. Even as they lifted her e could see a pool of blood where she was lying. Shobha wished her well, asked Anjali to wish her too. And after she left, Shobha broke down. It was very traumatising for all of us, and though I have been very stand offish as far as their care was concerned, I felt sad to see the playful pup go to an unfamiliar place, with such grievous injuries. All we could do was send her energy and good wishes.

Life is life that. Shobha said 'I wonder if we could have done any more? Protected them.' But we did the best we can. Anjali was amazingly stoic through this whole episode. Though she was with Zindagi comforting her, cleaning her, holding her, seeing her pain, she was like I said stoic. 'I have become rather used to this since ajji's death,' she said in a way of explanation.

Zindagi being taken by the PFA volunteers - Get well soon!

I could not keep images in my mind of Zindagi in a distant and unfamiliar place for a while. end her energy and good wishes and hope the best thing for her happens. Lots of love Zindagi. Loved the way you'd roll on your back when you saw us, or go at my ankles, or stick your head out beside the gate. Until later then.       

Jokes and Cartoons!

 These are some jokes and cartoons I found on WhatsApp - Chitra is a major contributor just as my schol group is. Have some fun! 

 

Acknowledgements to those who made these jokes and cartoons, don't know many, but thanks for the laughs. You made my day.