Monday, May 18, 2015

It's all a matter of attitude – Justin Herald

The by line for the book is - slogans to live life by. Justin Herald started a company Attitude Inc at the age of 25 (which became a multi million dollar company) which sells T shirts with these great attitude slogans. In this book Justin selects 50 of his best (I've included them all because they are pretty nice and inspiring) with some of his thoughts accompanying them - and I've italicised the ones I liked.

In the end its all a matter of attitude

I don’t care how good you are…I'm better

I'm in the business of winning and business is good

Losing is not an option

Winners make it happen…losers let it happen

When you control the ball, you control the score

When I want your opinion, I'll give it to you

Excuses are for losers

If nothing changes…nothing changes

Let's work as a team and do it my way

I don’t have an attitude problem…you have a perception problem

Some work at it, some fake it, some even do courses on it, but me…I was just born with it

Go hard or just go home

The edge is not the limit…it’s the starting point

If you think you’re beaten, you are

Life's tough…so what

The only thing champions have in common are their dreams

Tell someone who cares

Get enthusiastic or get out of my face

It's not whether you get knocked down…it's whether you get back up

100% attitude…you got a problem with that?

To be a champion you have to be the best, if you're not, then just pretend you can

Whatever it takes

A positive anything is better than a negative nothing

He who loses control..loses

Just because we’re on the same planet doesn’t mean we are from the same world

Show me a good loser and I’ll show you a loser

It’s the risk that's the rush

If you think you can't …you won't

It's all about luck...just ask any loser

It's none of my business what you think of me

No regrets..not even a little one

Don’t tell me what you’ve done…show me what you can do

The game isn’t over until I win

Just because I’m listening doesn’t mean I care

No limits, no excuses, no ifs, no buts….just attitude

Winners do what losers don’t

The impossible is what nobody can do until somebody does it

Obstacles are what you see when you take your eyes off the goals

I'd rather be disliked for what I am than be liked for what I am not

No one trains for second place

Be difficult…be better

Impossible is just an opinion

A little bit of pain never really hurt anyone

In life what you focus on is all that you will say

Quitting is a loser’s shortcut


I don’t need your attitude …I have one of my own


Choukati Bahercha Cinema (Out of the Box Cinema) - Ganesh Matkari

This is a book I found at Raja's place. It lists out out-of-the-box movies that the author had seen and recommends. I did not read the content of the book which was in Marathi but I made a list of the movies the author recommended. But its obviously a work of love and one could see that in the way he wrote in detail about the movies.

Here’s the list. The italicised ones are the ones I have seen.

Donnie Darko
21 grams
Open your eyes
Fight club
Run Lola run
Reconstruction
Mulholand drive
He loves me, he loves me not
Time crimes
November
F for fake
Memento
Reprise
The nines
Groundhog day
5X2
La jete
12 monkeys
Waking life
Look
Heavenly creatures
Being John Malkovich
Clockwork orange
Perfume
Mr. Books
A Scanner Darkly
Brazil
Synechdoche New York
American psycho
Anti Christ
Man bites dog
Clover field
Pans labyrinth
Trainspotting
3…extremes
Death of a President
Renaissance
Imagination of Dr. Parasses
City of lost children
Sin City
The Bloomwitch Project
Primes
The Promotion
The 5 Obstructions
Exam
REC
Dazed and Confused
Monsters
Walkabout
Somewhere
The Girlfriend Experience
Once
13
Open Water
Match factory girl
The Village
127 hours
Full Frontal
Duel
Moon
My Little Eye
Sleuth
K – Pax
Shann of the dead
Hoodwinked
Pulp fiction
Annie hall
Let the right one in
Intact
Kickass
Memories of Murder
Sex, lies and videotape
Terribly Happy
Intermission
Dot the i
In the valley of Ella
Cache
Lock stock and two smoking guns
Zodiac
Breathless
Henry Poole Is Here
White Ribbon
The Princess and the Warrior
Ed Lord
Magnolia
5 days without Nora
Art School Confidential
Persepolis
Bobby
Waltz with Bashir
M
And your mother too
Shallow grave
Blindness
Paradise now
Taxi driver
The King
Me and Orson Welles

It also lists Dhobhi Ghat (seen) but I wonder why it made this list. I hope I got most spellings right because I noted them by hand and as it happens sometimes I could not read my own handwriting at places.

Talk On 'Effective Employee Engagement' - NHRD Hyderabad, HR Interact on May 14, 2015

I was invited by the NHRD's Hyderabad Chapter to speak about 'Effective Employee Engagement' using a generalists perspective in their HR Interact series of talks. The session was conducted at the EThames Graduate School, Punjagutta. Mr. Dinavahi was there on dot to receive me and we had a good crowd of about 40 consisting of senior practitioners, managers, entrepreneurs and students. Given below is the general flow of the speech.


"As I understand it - employee engagement is about how deeply we can engage the employee at work. We all do this at various levels - good and bad, low and high. Let's concern ourselves with practices and principles that give good results (because fully engaged employees will produce good results). 
A memento - Thanks NHRD (Pic. Vijay Vedantam)
To get the best out of their employees is the concern of every manager and leader. How do we do that? How do we engage employees? Or rather, how do we engage people? 

Let me tell you a story.

Engagement - It's about challenge
There is a cricket net at Shamshabad airport. The bowling machine bowls 20 balls and we pay 100 bucks or so and knock the ball around. A friend of mine paid up and asked me to play. I played, in a most disengaged fashion I must admit.  I got beaten, mistimed the ball and even got out a couple of times. When I left the net I felt very disappointed with my own performance. Why did I not play to my potential, I wondered. What would have made me play better? To my potential? 

That was when I realised that if the bowling machine guy had thrown me a challenge – say if I did not miss a single ball of those 20 balls I get 5 balls extra as a reward – I would have risen to the task. I would have been fully engaged. This is what happens for most people who are not self-motivated. The environment must think of ways to challenge and engage the customer (or employee).

(In cases where the environment cannot challenge me, I need to find ways to motivate myself. Which comes down to the same thing - I will find a new challenge and reward for myself to push myself to newer intensities.)

The lesson - to engage anyone fully we must challenge them. The managers job is to challenge the employees constantly - which requires the manager to be a creative person himself. For individuals it comes down to challenging themselves each time.

It's simple and mischievous
Another cricketing story. Ramakant Achrekar, Sachin Tendulkar’s coach apparently had a great way of motivating his young wards. Normally young cricketers go to nets without too much engagement – it’s after all practice and not the real thing. So Achrekar came up with a brilliant idea. He’d put a coin on the top of the stumps and challenge the batsman and the bowler to earn it. If the batsman plays without getting out during his time, he gets the coin. If bowlers get the batsman out they get the coin. Everyone is fully engaged. The lesson here is that engaging your employees or team mates requires such simple tricks that get them all to focus on the challenge. It requires the manager to be ingenious, creative and fun. There are no big lectures. There is a prize to be won and you can earn it if you are good enough. The players feel a sense of achievement from the first ball and may even start thinking how to make things happen (about the process) thereby improving their skill. 

It’s the kind of thinking that one can see in healthy growth-oriented cultures.

Years ago when I wrote my first book ‘The Men Within’ the crux of the matter was the same for me. How do I get a team of young cricketers who have no belief in themselves to perform way above their weight. The answer I stumbled upon was this – transfer a sense of ownership to the boys. How does the coach transfer his pain, his vision, his desire to the boys? It’s a difficult job but it can be done if one has the right intent and talent.

Employee engagement is getting the employee engaged in a way that he feels as if he owns the work and runs with it. That is the ideal employee really – someone who can behave with the urgency, drive and passion of the owner himself at getting the work done. In reality, most employees are not blessed with that kind of self motivation – so it does become the job of the manager to bring them to that point.
Holding forth (Pic. Vijay Vedantam)

Employee Engagement - The Manager's Viewpoint
Let’s look at employee engagement from the point of view of the managers and then from that of the employees.

Let me first categorise employees into two types. Those blessed with the ability to be self motivated. These are few - perhaps 10%. They are about pride. They know they are good and back themselves. 

Then comes the other 90%. These need to be mentored until they come to the level of believing in themselves, of taking pride in themselves and their work. These are the ones that need to be invested in. They must be made to feel secure. They must be treated like the whales in Ken Blanchard’s 'Whale Done' (or like most of us really). They must be appreciated for the small progresses they make and corrected when veering off course. They must be handled with kid’s gloves until they start walking.

The 90% - Need Belief in Themselves and Pride in Their Work
In my experience, most managers make the mistake of treating both categories alike. The people in the first category must be made to feel that the managers they are dealing with are interested in them and their growth. That they will be taken care of. To make them feel secure, managers could be patient with them, appreciate the progress they are making, accentuate the positive, ignore the negative and redirect energy (all whale done processes or kid-handling processes). Understand that its all about energy – what you pay attention to grows. In a while these employees feel confident enough to take some pride in their work and start believing in themselves.

The 10% - Challenge and Ownership
At this stage, when the employees or wards start showing signs of belief in themselves and pride in their work, managers can gently shift gears and challenge them a bit more. Now that the employees can walk they should be allowed to take more and more responsibility. Managers can now widen the range and empower them. While doing this one should be careful not to suppress their natural flair and allow them to express themselves naturally. Understand that each employee is different and invest time with them. There is no one rule fits all (except the grand rule that one must love ones wards like ones own children). Set high standards and make them earn it. You can transfer ownership by showing them their potential and where they can go with what they have and facilitate their growth after that.

Sharing future plans, giving clear roles, providing support and mostly giving constant feedback are important. When employees feel trusted, when they know they are taken care of, they will give their best.

Ian Chappell on How to get the best from players
Here it's relevant to recall what Ian Chappell once said about getting the best out of people. To get the best out of his team members he said the captain must make the cricket interesting. In my view, to make the cricket interesting the captain must be interesting too. He must be passionate about his goals, about his wards growth, about the work itself and that itself can throw up many interesting possibilities.
With Mr. Chandra Sekhar, ITC, former Divisional Head, ITC, Guntur

My Leadership Model - How Leaders Evolve 
Insecure, Personal Leadership and Secure Leadership
When we look at managers we find that most cannot trust their employees because they are insecure people themselves. Trust issues are all about how much we trust ourselves - they are never about the others. 

Insecure leaders - All power and no responsibility (ownership)
My model for leaders is this. First come the insecure leaders who are given power without any responsibility. The have no understanding or confidence of executing their own role, are insecure and therefore try to merely survive (and not let anyone find out about their insecurities). They push down the smart ones, promote insecure ones and develop a system of mediocrity because of their innate insecurity. In such teams failure is a matter of time. Such leaders will certainly not grow leaders. Mostly because leaders are about ownership and they cannot transfer ownership because they do not take ownership for their role themselves.

Personal leaders - No power and all responsibility (ownership)
However the same leaders who have failed enough may start thinking at one stage of their own contribution, their role. Here they become personal leaders if they start thinking of the possibilities they can bring to the fore if they can somehow expand their role within its definition. For eg. a tea boy who serves with smile and panache, a chauffeur who makes the ride more enjoyable, a receptionist who takes her job seriously - its all about going beyond the call of the duty. Beyond the words and into the spirit of things. This is when magic happens. This is when the real power of ownership is unleashed. This is the first time when the real "I" is awakened. What can "I" really do? What can "I" contribute really? Two small examples. One of the tea boy in the bank where I worked - he'd come at 4 pm and serve tea as if its the best tea in the world and he'd label it Makwana's tea and come on like a breath of fresh air. Another of a lady scooterist in Pune who instead of cribbing about all the people who are breaking the law took it upon herself to stop a young man going on the wrong side on his bike and finally made him turn back and go into the right lane! Both cases of personal leadership. Of what people can do if they take ownership (and not merely talk about it). They will start making a difference. Now the hallmark of these people is that even without power they take up great responsibility. They go beyond the words because it is after all about who you really are. They do much more than what is required of them. They take ownership for their role. Like I said before, this is where the magic begins so its time we all asked ourselves the question - what can I do to change this situation? How can i contribute?

Secure leaders - Power used well to transfer power and ownership
The third lot of leaders is what we must grow. This is the lot of secure leaders. These are people who do not shirk away from empowering their wards with power and responsibility. They grow them beyond themselves. They can do so because they are secure. To be secure is only this - they say they know what they now and say they do not know what they do not. Many times they may even feign ignorance just to see what their wards can come up with. By merely showing this vulnerability they encourage and challenge their wards to step in and do their best for them. It is a natural human reaction to step up to help  someone who is seeking help (we all feel good when we do that don't we?). The secure managers transfer ownership and credit because it grows these wards of theirs. Its about letting the wards run with their ideas and grow the endeavour collaboratively while keeping a supportive net under them when they fail. There's this wonderful speech of Dr. Abdul Kalam who speaks of his boss at ISRO who gave all responsibility on a project to Dr. Kalam - when it failed the first time the  boss took all the blame and when it succeeded the second time, he let Dr. Kalam take all the credit. 

When managers have problems with their teams and their levels of engagement the first place they must look at is themselves. They say teams only reflect the leader so it is time for the leader to look at himself or herself before giving up on the team.

Employee Engagement - The Employee's Viewpoint
When we try to understand employee engagement from the employee perspective all we need to do is ask ourselves is this question. What do we want in an ideal boss? One who gives freedom to express and execute, one who trusts and supports, who is interested in our growth and helps us grow, one who makes us feel secure, one who makes us feel useful and like we are contributing, one who throws up challenges for our growth. We don’t mind the boss's admonishments when we deserve then because they are needed to keep us on course. That’s all one needs to bear in mind as a manager to keep their employees engaged. 

One must bear in mind that all people are not blessed with the same experience, maturity or knowledge. But we must believe that they are all possessing the desire to excel, to be recognised for the good work they are capable of. Here, is they need a bit of help and support, it becomes the manager's job to facilitate it (not talk about it) so employees enjoy the work and get engaged. Who benefits by this work? As a manager your job gets lesser and lesser because employees are taking more and more ownership and becoming more productive which indicate show well you are doing at your job (by becoming irrelevant after some time). As an employee you get more growth and challenge by taking more ownership and utilising all the opportunities you are getting.

Its all about people really
Finally despite all these words and talks about systems, corporate, hierarchies, employee engagement etc it is all about people. As we all know people leave their managers and not their jobs so it is up to the managers to make their jobs interesting, to find their own growth and purpose before they can grow others. It can all start now by accepting that we would like to be part of the change. That we as managers have the power to facilitate that change. For that the first point is that the leader must change to produce results.




Monday, May 11, 2015

Sinhagad - May 2015

There was a time twenty years ago when a climb up Sinhagad was a banter-filled trek that ended   with some delicious nimbu pani, butter milk, kandha bajji, pitla bhakhar and other such stuff that taste like they were made in heaven. Now of course, there is trepidation when the name crops up because the climb asks much of you - joins ache and creak, swellings and pains, pulls and spasms are part of the bargain. Which is why the challenge is that much more interesting.
Did it - Again!

Two years ago, when I was in the worst ever condition physically I pushed myself to climb the hill. It was symbolic of things to come and the next year did open well for me after a really low six months. I know how difficult it was then, so I wondered if I was in any better shape this time. But my niece Pooja was insistent - let's go mama, she said. She is one stubborn, resilient one. A few years ago she did the KtoS or rather the Katraj to Sinhagad trek in the monsoon over a full 12 hours through the night. The trek ends by climbing Sinhagad! I tell Pooja - you do things like that Pooju, you can do anything.
At the beginning - Pooja with the goods

Anyway she comes with Prarthana, my older niece who is certainly not going to climb the Sinhagad - these pursuits and challenges are not for her - especially since they come in the way of comfort - but she did come, her new camera and all (she is a good photographer). We set off at 520, reached Sinhagad at 615, started climbing. At 624 Prarthana stopped and said we should go back, again at 629 and by 633 she was done with the climb, having done about 100 metres or so (or perhaps I am exaggerating, she might have done 102!)
Sun rising

Pooja was ahead and shaking her head - I knew she would not come. Prarthana kept calling to make us call off the climb but we chugged on.
That's where we want to go
The crowd was a typical Sunday crowd, its heavy traffic at Sinhagad.
Its 7 in the morning!
The regulars walking by briskly, the athletes running, toddlers of 7 years, families with little babies strapped on, old seventy year olds, a sari clad lady with no slippers who was seventy surely, regulars shouting at the top of their voices "aur burger kha, pizza kha, butter khaa...' taunting the slow walkers, the ones like me who climbed with great effort sweating copiously, all sorts, all ages.
Checking out a route

The climb seemed steeper but I was glad to find that I needed fewer stops and felt much better this time. The shacks had increased in number - nimbu sherbet is 20 bucks!
Way down - reminded me of Dhanaulti
We climbed on and on and at 40% my legs started showing signs of feeling the pressure, at 60% my breath started going and I had to breathe in through my mouth, at 75% I had to take it one step at a time and not look up. But eventually 1 hour 35 minutes later I was up there.
A Step below

Just about, but I did it.
That's Sinhagad in the distance

We drank in lots of butter milk, ate some pot curds, some totaparri mangoes and caught a jeep on the way down. Normally the routine is to climb into the fort, eat stuff and then climb back which takes about an hour 45 minutes (downs are more difficult than the ups).
Lovely drive back
But we decided to play smart, take a jeep, avoid the summer sun and head home. The jeep ride was scenic. Down there we took off in the car, a job well done. Good bonding time with one of my favorite nieces.

Sunday, May 3, 2015

Anjali - The Horse Is Clever Only If We Are Clever

Another classic Anjali moment. We were playing chess again and she was extolling the virtues of the knight/horse. 'The horse is tricky, very clever no nanna,' she said happily while putting all the pieces on the board.

I agreed sagely.

Then she suddenly corrected herself.

'But the horse is clever only if we are clever right?'

Yeah, right? We still have to do the work. 

Thought for the Day - Acts of Faith

We all need these acts of faith to keep us going once in a while. These acts cannot be justified, quantified. They have to be done for one thing - faith.

They are the small promises - made, not made. They are the ones that will shore up faith. They are the acts, gestures, words that make a person smile inside, make a person feel special, feel worth it.

The journey is always about reaching out from one heart to another - from one heart that finds a capacity to share from within its reserves to another that is fast losing faith. Its not about thousands of miles, about money, about poetry. Its about that little extra thoughtfulness that makes you want to restore the balance of faith in another life.

It could make all the difference. How many acts of faith have you received? How many have you done?

Intent is one thing. Acts, another.

50 Not Out - Reader Review in Mouthshut

Nice review of 50 Not Out in mouthshut - the sort that make the effort completely worth it. How well the reader gets it, how articulately and honestly he shares, makes me wonder. This is a theory of mine - when we truly feel what we express, it is felt in the same measure across time and space.

Thanks Mahesh Sowani for your review. Enjoyed reading Mahesh's other reviews too - balanced, thought through and honest.
http://www.mouthshut.com/review/50-Not-Out-Harimohan-Paruvu-review-qmnprsnlqs