Sometimes we tend t hold on to stuff that happened in the past and it weighs heavier on you by the day. It makes sense to understand that whatever happened was done and is over and has been dealt with. No need to carry that burden anymore.
The you who was there then has long since changed into someone else. So has everyone in that space.
It's time to let go and move on and stop carrying the burden. Simply because you are no longer the same person.
2021. Directed by George Clooney and based on a novel, it's a delightful coming-of-age film about the relationship between a young boy whose father has deserted him and his uncle Charlie (Ben Affleck) who runs a bar called 'Dickens' (after you know who). The Uncle keeps giving male lessons to the fatherless young kid and always helps hi along at the right time and sets him up for life. The bar and his Uncle's feisty friends, his love story, all make for a nice, heartwarming story.
2020. I have been wanting to watch this ever since I heard about it. A take on American nomads, who took off in their vans since they became homeless, and lived like nomads.
So you are by yourself, independent by choice or otherwise, alone, and all you have with the money you got is the van to stay. Not many places allow you to stay and some places it gets very cold and the van has problems, you get sick, you run out of money etc etc.
But everyone has been young once, has had dreams, has become old and their dreams are dying out and all one now has to do is to clutch on to the little dignity that is left in their fight for survival. Something about these people - they do not want to live with others despite the many offers they get - they are nomads at heart.
Frances McDormand as always turns in a powerful performance. No wonder she got the Oscar.
A young girl is running away from a group of men chasing her in a jeep. She goes to the railway station and causes mayhem out there by breaking bottles etc and walks out coolly drinking the last one. Two medicos are in the railways station and watch her. One of them is Dhanush who is to be engaged in two days to his Dean's daughter. His friend is studying psychiatry and is always wrong. The girl's grandma wants her to get married to the first man she possibly can and the men of the house kidnap Dhanush and get him married off by force, using nitrous oxide to make him laugh. Then the two are set loose in a train to Delhi.
Why?
Dhanush takes her to his college and keeps her in his room and then she offers to come with him for his engagement. Oh, by the way, she keeps talking of her great love Sajjad Khan who is a magician. The presence of the Bihari girl in the Madurai household ends as expected - the girl finds out that Dhanush is already married and the marriage is cancelled. All we now need is for Sajjad to be eliminated for a great love story to occur.
One feels that Akshay Kumar's role was made much bigger than required. There is no reason for him to be around as much and it is clear that Dhanush is the hero. Akshay seems to have believed he is the hero when he is actually the her's father in law, and perhaps so did the director.
In many ways, one of the most confused execution of what could have been a decent story. One wonders if the star got his way and the director let him. Wasted Dhanush and Sara Ali Khan completely with the execution.Could have been a wonderful love story otherwise.
Avoid.
Or, stop taking yourself too seriously!
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There are times when I look at the blog and think - hey, I should do this or this or whatever. I feel I 'must' post.
But that does not really help. It only means that I am taking myself too seriously, more than required. I should be able to do it without tat feeling of 'must' do. Then it comes down to labour from an art.
That's how we reduce our lives from an art form to labour.
Al the things you feel you 'must' do, even that little bit, are what you must mentally let go (maybe even physically) to find that joy within it. Else it just becomes a labored, conscious, who's looking project.
When life should be easy, not conscious and do-it-for-the-sake-of-doing it thing.
Take it easy. No one's looking. No one's judging.
You do it for yourself.
Chill.
When I first wrote the 'Misfit', my yet unpublished novel, which I will someday publish, I thought of having four different characters as four characters within the same person. I did that because I knew that there were different parts of me which reacted differently to different people and circumstances.
For example,with some people I am laid back, with some I am responsible, with some I am fun, with some I am extroverted, with some I am introverted, with some I am intense. Some think I am organised, some think I am careless. Some think I am soft, some think I am not. Some think I am selfish, some think I am kind.
I am all of that. And more.
And I realise that I become what the other person somehow seems to attract. In an ideal situation I can be myself whatever the person is like. But as I am now, I can see how much the other person influences how i am, either by their energy or their expectations. Right now I am a lot depending on the other.
It also gives me space to think that I probably do the same to others. When people are nice to me its because I am allowing them to be nice to me. When people are not nice to me, again its because I am allowing them the freedom to be not nice.
It's fantastic. But its all me. And we hold all the strings.
