One way to get over the hole in our lives when people move out is to identify what they made you feel, what you did, how you were and then recreate it - with another person or persons or even with oneself. Can I still enjoy a laugh with someone, share a chai with someone, pull someone's leg, share stuff that I learned or discovered, open myself to someone, make plans, sit quietly, listen to music, watch a film, go for a drive...well I am sure they can all be equally fulfilling with other people, with oneself. It should be as much fun I should think.
To be in that state with oneself is ideal, and if we can be as much fun with ourselves, it will be very easy to attract the right kind of people too. Life goes on as usual - fun, invigorating, learning, sharing, feeling cared, a feeling of belonging.
It's an experiment worth trying.
2 comments:
Interesting thought. But I think not all moments are meant to be recreated even though we miss them. Because some emotions are better left exactly how they were just to preserve their very essence...!
Fully fully agree. The moment I wrote the post I knew it was a weak idea.
The post was more a vent, exploring a superficial, instant way to get over the pain of losing that person. You definitely cannot recreate - as like you said, best leave those emotions and memories alone, as they are. These recreation ideas are only temporary ways to distract yourself from the pain for a bit until you start creating your life anew again.
That said, the assumption here is that you have kept your life on hold for this one person. I think you should ideally live your life with the same enthusiasm and zest, even if its just with yourself. No wallowing in the past, no holding back - all of which just takes you away from your present. An the future.
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