Everything about stress is about understanding what we are responsible for and what we are not. In a way, it is about clarity about what we are supposed to be doing (what we are responsible for).
For example, our team is playing and we feel tense and stressed out. It makes no sense because we are not responsible for how they play. Whatever had to be done until then had been done and the team is now playing. Whether they play well or not is upto them, a factor of their preparation. It has nothing to do with you. You are only responsible for what you are responsible for - your thoughts, your actions. Support your team, believe in them, encourage them whatever the outcome. That's all.
Same with parents and children. Whatever had to be done is already done. Its now up to the child to practice what he or she has learned. Let the child practice, fumble, fall, get up and grow. Don't feel responsible for that and stress yourself out.
Most of us however feel we are responsible for every action of theirs, every mistake they make, every failure of theirs. No your responsibility has ended as a coach, as a supporter - now just send them good wishes and enjoy the game. Don't stress yourself thinking you are responsible for things beyond your control.
The world keeps going whether we get stressed or not. We are not responsible for it. So chill.
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