Tuesday, November 5, 2024

Thought for the Day - If It's Stressful, You're Taking Things too Seriously

 When things get stressful, its time to look at whether we are taking things too seriously. Lighten up a little, laugh at yourself and the situation and then you may find a way to deal with it better. 


When we take things too seriously it also means that we are too stuck with one outcome mostly. By stepping back a little we could find alternate ways, ways we did not think of earlier, opening up.  

When we are stressed out, maybe we should lighten up and have fun. It helps in more ways than one - relieves stress, opens up new possibilities, relieves tensions between parties.

Let go and you'll get a lot more.

Monday, November 4, 2024

Day 11 - Indulge Yourself

 After all these days of indulgence, it had to happen that my stomach give way. Or perhaps its just that I am not used to indulging myself. Troubled by a minor upset tummy I decided to indulge in something I normally don't - slept in all day almost.



This is a different and most unusual and precious indulgence for me. Unless I am forced to, I do not give myself permission to rest. So I am thrilled with myself and with all the sleep I caught up with.


Adi Sankaracharya - Movie

 1983. Sanskrit.

The film was made with funding by NFDC and was India's first film to be made in Sanskrit. The movie sketches the life of Adi Sankaracharya from his childhood to his death covering all the major aspects of his journey to consolidate the doctrine of Advaita Vedanta. Sarvadaman Banerjee played Adi Sankaracharya and looked very much the part. Very interesting watch.



   

The Pink Panther Strikes Again - Movie

 1976.

I missed a few in this series looks like - this is the fifth in the series. After the first one I jumped straight into this one. But it was hilarious and all that I expected a Pink Panther series to be. Peter Sellers as Inspector Clouseau somehow gets into a situation where assassins from 16 different countries are out to kill him (including a handsome Egyptian assassin Omar Sharif) and true to his calibre, somehow loses everyone of them and saves the day for the world!

Some of the sequences are hilarious like the helium balloon one, or his attempts to investigate the kidnappings in England. Now to watch the others.


      

Coming Back - The Science of Reincarnation - Based on the Teachings of Swami Prabhupada

 It's a slim book, about 130 pages. The general idea is that the soul is what we are and the body is just a vehicle, the soul is immortal and the bodies change like we change clothes, we could end up in any kind of life (fish, plant, insect..depending on our karma), human life is the one form where you can transcend the cycle of life and death, what is on your mind when you die is what you are reborn as.


The mystery of Consciousness - Swami says that Consciousness is distinct from and superior to matter composing of the physical body. 

The body is a vehicle for the soul through which it may fulfill its myriad material desires.

Body moves from childhood to old age, similarly the soul moves from body to body. Body changes, soul remains.

According to the Vedas there are 8.400,000 species of life - microbes, fish, plants, insects, reptiles, birds, animals, humans and demigods.

Whatever state of being one remembers when he quits the body...that state he will attain without fail in his next life.

Everything we have thought and done during our life makes an impression on the mind and the sum total of all these impressions influence our final thoughts. According to our thoughts we get a suitable body.

Those who do not enquire about their non-physical nature are compelled by the laws of karma to continue in the cycle of birth, death, rebirth - as different species.

The human body is the only loophole through which the materially conditioned soul can escape. 

A soul fortunate enough to obtain a human body should seriously endeavour for self-realisation.

Human body works because of the living force withing. The body is always dead. Concern yourself with the active principle - the soul.

So ham - I am the active principle

Aham Brahmasmi - I am not the material body, I am the Brahman

The body may be different but the soul remains the same.

If one is a God-realised soul, he is not afraid of anything.

In dreams our body lies in the bed and we go elsewhere. When we dream we act in different bodies and in different locations.

Pure consciousness does not need a body.

To get first class experience you must get a guru.

The goal of life is self-realisation or God-realisation.

To live eternally, with full knowledge, bliss, we must get out of the body. The human body is not perfect. Seek perfection. 

You are not a body which also has a soul. You are a soul living in a temporary body.

Soul is present in the heart of the living entity. The energy of the soul is spread all over the body and this is known as consciousness.

In heart transplants, conception, the soul must enter the body.

God is a very great soul, living entity is a very small soul.

The book gives three stories from Srimad Bhagavatham
- Citraketu who craves for a son and who loses him and understands the principle
- King Bharata who renounces everything and while in the jungle gets attached to a deer and becomes a deer in his next life
- The brahmin Ajamila who gives up a righteous life, marries a prostitute and is about to be taken away by yamadutas to hell when he utters the name of his son 'Narayana' twice and is rescued by angels

Some reincarnation principles

- Our life is just a flash in time
- You can get a body of your choice
- Death means forgetting your last life
- The soul takes a human form first
- Your thoughts create your next body
- You can be born as a man or woman depending on your thoughts in the last life

... 

It is an interesting book and I find myself looking at my body differently now. Also being aware of my thoughts. 

The soul in a human body stands at an evolutionary midpoint - can choose degradation or liberation

To liberate oneself
- Chant 

Hare Krisna, Hare Krsna
Krisna Krisna, Hare Hare
Hare Rama, Hare Rama,
Rama Rama, Hare Hare
- Study the Gita and the Srimad bhagavatam
- Eat vegetarian food
- Offer food to Krisna
- Contribute to help propagate the Krisna Connsciousness
- Don't engage in illicit sex
- Associate with people who are trying to break free of this cycle

 

  

Leading Teams - Richard Hackman

The by line goes like this - 'setting the stage for great performances'. It's all about creating conditions for the right performances. The fundamental reason why there is so much focus on effective team work is that teams can perform large asks and more meaningful tasks than by single individuals. Richard says that teams can create magic - but normally they don't because the conditions are not right.

'The leaders main task is to get a team established on a good trajectory and then to make small adjustments along the way to help members succeed - not to try to continuously manage team behavior in real time. It is about creating conditions that increase its chances of success.'



According to Hackman there are are five performance enhancing conditions

- Having a real team
- setting a compelling direction
- having an enabling team structure
-having a supportive organisational context
- providing expert team coaching

'With superb leadership teams discover new and better ways of working together and individuals find personal learning and fulfillment. Effective work teams operate in ways that build shared commitment, collective skills and appropriate coordination strategies (not mutual antagonism and traits of failures). Group experience contributes to learning and personal well being of individual team members.

The criteria for team effectiveness are

1) team product acceptable to client (performing to potential, winning - in sports)
2) growth in team capability
3) group experience is meaningful and satisfying for members 

Leadership is creating conditions that increase its chances of evolving into an effective performing unit.

What's a Real team
What differentiates a real team versus a set of individuals are these 

- Team Task
- Clear boundaries
who is on the team/ who is not
is it under bounded or over bounded
is membership and team identity clear
- Clearly specified authority
is it being underused or over used
are they manager-led teams (manager sets overall direction) or are they self-managed teams  (teams deign team and its organisational context, monitor and manage work process and progress and execute the task)
- membership stability over a period of time
reasonably stable teams perform better, they have a shared mental model, familiarity, shared knowledge, team stability makes excellent leadership possible

A real team has the right size, considerable life and a close context

Setting a Compelling Direction

Leader's direction is clear, engaging, challenging and offers choice (invites them to join and bring their talents)

Effective team self-management is impossible unless someone in authority sets direction for the team's work. It energises the team, orients attention and action and engages their talents. leaders must understand that people seek purpose and meaning in what they do and how they live. When leaders articulate a set of aspirations that elevate our purposes or deepen the meaning we find in our lives, motivational juices flow.

Here the leader's dilemma about how to instruct teams on going about their work is - do we specify ends or do we specify means? Hackman gives a brilliant matrix with ends on one axis and means on another and clearly the one where the leader specifies ends and not the means is the one that works. I remember an old quote - tell your team what to do and not how to do it and they will surprise you!

Four scenarios

- Don't specify means and ends - results in anarchy
- specify ends but not means - self-managed, goal oriented work
- specify means but no ends - wasted resources
- specify means and ends - team gets turned off, worst scenario   

 Apart from scenario two, it will result in significant performance problems and substantial under utilisation of resources

When ends are specified but means are not - team members are able to and encouraged to draw on their full complement of knowledge, skill and experience in designing and executing a way of operating that is well-tuned to team's purpose and circumstance.  One must only take care to specify the outer limits of team discretion.

However setting direction involves execution of authority. Its an inherently anxiety-arousing activity. Team members either trust or rebel when authority is exercised. Hackman says that 'to create and maintain an appropriate partitioning of authority between managers and teams requires that anxieties be managed rather than minimised and that people are willing to live with uncertainties and ambiguities as they seek to create a work system that works. Few leadership choices are more consequential for the long term well-being of teams than those that address the partitioning of managers and teams. It takes knowledge, emotional maturity and perseverance.'

Hackman specifies the Trade Offs in Setting Direction
1) how to be clear and complete in specifying purpose (balance between giving too little and being unclear and abstract and giving too much which makes them less involved and makes them not take ownership, a good direction statement has both specificity and a little fuzz around the edges)

2) how challenging should the performance target be (the maximum motivation is when you have a 50% chance of success, leaders who succeed in establishing just the right amount of challenge for task-performing teams invariably are those who have taken the trouble to get to know their team's well)

3) how best to align the direction of the team with broader organisational purpose   

 Leaders must be a leader and a follower. Setting direction is about exercise of authority and a release of energy.

Enabling Structure
Structure like authority is neither good nor bad for team work. The best structures provide members with a solid platform on which to carry out their collective work but also leave lots of room for them to develop their own unique ways of operating. Ideally don't specify too much, but put basic structures for team effectiveness and minimise organisational obstacles

Design of work for teams 

People are either internally motivated for individual performance or externally motivated. People have internal motivation when they view their work as meaningful and feel personally responsible for work outcomes and receive trustworthy knowledge of the results of their efforts. 

Internal Motivation is possible when
- given a meaningful task
- given full responsibility for work
- knowledge of results is immediate and trustworthy

When we assign the entire task to a team and give members the responsibility, it has significant increase in meaningfulness of the work. The downside of this is social loafing where members do not give their best and elan on others work. Leaders must watch for signs of motivational slippage and seek opportunities to help members develop and sustain high shared motivation.

One must understand that team members usually have a better understanding of the demands and opportunities in their immediate work situation than do the managers and engineers who lay down standard work procedures.

Feedback makes team learning possible - team members feel psychologically safe to explore reasons for team successes and failures (team feedback better individual feedback)

For a team to become a self-correcting unit it needs

- a stable team
- feedback 
- well coached team

Norms of conduct
leaders to specify norms of conduct or behaviors which are acceptable and unacceptable - reinforce whats acceptable and sanction what's not. Two core norms are 1) to be proactive 2) identify behaviors to do and not to do. Can have secondary norms to support primary norms.

Let team sizes not be more than 6. Watch out for process losses which affect the performance (performance + potential - process loss). Don't make them too homogeneous or heterogeneous. 

With individual players, harvest their contributions with minimum risk to the team.

Supportive Context

Teams need a reward system which recognises and reinforces good behaviors and is contingent on excellent team performances. Rewards are better than punishment to shape behavior. The consequences of excellent team performance must be something that team members themselves view as favorable.Leaders must find ways to reward and reinforce good performing teams.

For that these three conditions must apply
- team members must understand what is wanted and rewarded
- trustworthy indicators of the degree to which desired outcome has been achieved
- members must perceive they have leverage on the attainment of outcomes, that their collective behaviors shapes the outcomes

It is for the leader/manager to find ways to directly link team behaviors to team outcomes. Ideally do not rely exclusively on intrinsic or extrinsic rewards but instead structure the work itself to foster internal motivations and then support that positive motivation with performance contingent extrinsic rewards. Verbal reinforcement is certainly a must.

Training must be provided for teams when members are not sufficiently knowledgeable or skilled.

Expert Coaching

Coaching opportunities occur at the beginning, at midpoint and at the end. Well timed coaching is like preventive maintenance
- launch meeting (beginning) - motivational
- feedback (midpoint) - strategy - consultative
-analysis (end) - knowledge and skill - educational

The three aspects of group interaction that shape effectiveness are

- amount of effort members apply
- performance strategies applied
- level of knowledge and skill they apply

When conditions are favorable coaching can significantly enhance team performance.
Effort 
- Process loss - social loafing
- Process gain - high shared commitment to team and its work

Performance strategy 
- Process loss - mindless reliance on habitual routines
- Process gain - invention of innovative, task-appropriate work procedures

Knowledge and skill
- Inappropriate weighting of member contributions
- sharing of knowledge and development of member skills 

Beginning - task examined and redefined, norms of conduct specified tried and owned
Mid point - performance strategy coaching helps them stay closely
Ending - team sharing requires some protected time and a moderate level of collective safety, get team to generate and discuss explanations for performance

Keep an eye out for excellent team procedures and reinforce them (compliments, wine bottles, movie tickets). Interventions are all about timing - ill timed interventions harm.

Don't need to emphasise on harmony.

Leadership

Effective Leader Traits

- Knows some things
- Knows how to do some things
- has emotional maturity for the role
- has a measure of personal courage

What it takes

- Be prepared
- Lying in wait - don't force

Leading teams is about creating conditions that maximises chance of success, not finding causes.

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It's one of the most comprehensive works on  leading teams and I am glad I invested in it. As always I have used certain lines straight out of the book because they are so well articulated. I will go through it all once again and reinforce my understanding of these concepts. For anyone leading any kind of team activity, its a must read.
   

   

Sunday, November 3, 2024

Day 10 - Indulge Yourself

 A pesarattu upma which was on my list at Minerva Coffee shop. Went by myself and indulged in it. A and I indulged in some Chinese food at Blue Diamond which was not a very pleasant experience for me.

Why are most of my indulgences around food?

I do indulge myself in 'movies' and with books as well. 'Nudge' arrived today and it looks like an interesting read. 

Six Degrees of Separation - Movie

 1993.

Amazingly, its based on a real life incident. A conman by the name of David Hampton conned rich people in Manhattan by posing as the son of Sidney Poitier. So convincing and charming was he that the couple allowed him to stay the night in their apartment only to wake up in the morning to find him in bed with another man. The victims spoke about it to their friend John Guare who was a playwright and lo, it became a play and was adapted into a movie. Will Smith plays the young conman who cons rich Manhattanites. Very interesting.

  


Saturday, November 2, 2024

Day 9 - Indulge Yourself

 Pav bhaji was on y list for a while. So this evening took Anjali and her friend Pallavi to Sweet Basket at Srinagar colony and enjoyed a dahi papdi! And pav bhaji!


And got home a vada pav!

Complete indulgence.

Otherwise a full day at home though most of it was about waiting.

 

Friday, November 1, 2024

Missamma - Movie

 1955.

A young unmarried couple pose as if they are married to get jobs as teachers in a school run by a rich zamindar and fall in love!

After 'Patala Bhairavi' NTR still looks young but has put on some weight, Savitri is incredibly good as Ms Mary. The film was directed by LV Prasad, and was shot simultaneously in Tamil and Telugu. Later made into a Hindi film and then a Marathi film.


 

 

Diwali Times

 Festival times were trouble for me - Mom or Mythily would pester me to wake up. They needed me to pluck some mango leaves, tie them to the doorways, bring out the lamps, buy flowers, do stuff to prepare for the puja and so on. Don't remember Dad being enthusiastic about this - he was pretty big on Vinayaka Chaturthi days and on Dussehra days. Diwali he would be happy to buy firecrackers and enjoyed the bombs and stuff. For a gentle soul he liked the violent ones. Anyway, after the whole thing was done I was asked to take a head bath like all else and we would all gather around and do the puja I guess.

Our house - Lit up!

Sweets and stuff, new clothes were the order of the day. we would run off, me and ram, to burst some stupid crackers - fire that pistol mostly and harmless stuff like that. By evening the lamp lighting would start and people would dress up again. 108 lamps would be lit and put all around and on the terrace, the house, some puja done I think, and off we were to burst crackers in the foreground.

Me in action

I was generally happy to do the gentle stuff but I did not want to be branded a sissy so I would burst a few bombs. Never liked the hydrogen bombs and those especially loud ones. I was very impressed when I saw my Dad light the small bombs with his hand and threw them away - I aped him later. Rockets were mainly lit by Dad, and again with his hands if I remember. Some flower pots, Vishnu chakras, Bhu chakras and we were good. Apart from a few minor burns, all good.

Me in action again


Yesterday Anjali and I took out the diyas we had at home and poured some oil and lit and kept them on the wall etc just to keep that tradition going. In the process both of us lightly burned our fingers. Then we ordered some biryani and ate.

Happy Diwali!

Day 8 - Indulge Yourself

 I bought myself 'Nudge' on Amazon - a book I have been wanting to read for a long time.



Some more indulgences of the day - chocolate, Diwali sweets and savouries. A nice long walk after the rain.