Saturday, December 14, 2013

The Passport Experience

It was an experience quite unlike any I have ever had with passport offices earlier in my life. I remember the fading yellow building in Vijaynagar colony which was a virtual fortress and you never knew what to do and who to meet to get anything done. And the thousands of agents who were required to get anything done. I once had the job of trying to trace a document there and well, it was not the most pleasant of experiences. (But I do remember meeting a fine passport officer by the unusual name of Rommel, who was quick and decisive, and perhaps helped me then.)

Then the one in Secunderabad where I had a few more crazy experiences - all making me feel completely helpless and powerless in the total absence of processes, procedures and accountability. Once your file goes in there is no guarantee that it can be traced - it was thanks to the personal searches conducted by a rather expensive consultant that my passport which was dumped under some other files, was traced. Why did my passport end up there? Because they made a mistake with my ECNR status despite all documents staring them in the face. Not the best experience again.

So when it did come to getting Anjali's passport reissued, I checked out the online version warily, and got all the required documents done, paid the money and got the appointment which comes in really quick - next morning. Anjali and I landed up there just before noon and waited in the queue before the boys at the counter who checked our documents displayed good sense and sent the six year old in a token that probably gave her faster access - well done boys - it was almost lunch time and one does not need a cranky child waiting in queues for too long.

Once inside it all went on like clockwork. The counters, the procedures, the checks were all done in a smooth manner and we quickly moved on from the A counters to the B counters and finally the C counters where the old gentleman actually gave Anjali some candy. It was all done in about 45 minutes.

And that ended a really sweet experience at the Passport Seva Kendra, Ameerpet. What could top it? Receiving the passport of course. Anjali received it within a week - 5 days to be more precise. Good job MEA and good job all you young professionals at the counter.

Gone were those scowls, frowns, hungry and greedy looks, supercilious, rude and downright unacceptable behavior to applicants many of whom were simply ignorant and needed help. These kids worked with focus, were polite and patient and as I mentioned, even showed good discretion.

There is hope. 

Friday, December 13, 2013

People and Songs I Associate Them With

There are some songs that remind me of some people.

1) Yeh raatein, yeh mausam: Milind's song all the way. From the time I first heard him sing this 15 years ago till date. A 'farmaaish' every get together.

2) Zindagi ke safar mein: Raja's song,and he sung it especially well in his 50 year celebrations.

3) Piano man: Ram's signature song. Everyone in the group has fond memories of Ram singing this Billy Joel song full throatedly two decades ago.

4) Yaara O yaara: Ali Mumtaz, our friend from Port Blair, would sing this Narender Chanchal song beautifully. Also a ballad which I fail to recollect, which he sang for his girl then. She never heard it though. We did - many times.

5) Diye jalte hain: C. Sanjay would sing this song wonderfully. First heard this song in the OU hostels and loved the lyrics which, of course, Sanjay explained with great care. Now he is among my music buddies too - we once caught up at 11 in the night and played our favorite music till 4 in the morning before I left.

6) Those were the days my friend: Ajanta sang this song on a moonlit night out on the terrace in Pune some twenty years ago. Also Hasta Manana by Abba.

7) Joru meedunnivu tummeda (song from a Telugu movie): This song was one of those that my father loved. This among all the songs he'd listen to, was the one he loved most.

8) Guzra zamana bachpan ka: Koni's song for his anglicised version of this Mukesh classic - so soulfully off tune would Koni sing this song that he  earned the sobriquet 'Talat Michael' for this number.

9) Pukarta chala hoon main: Parth sang this song wonderfully well during Jui's sangeet. A perfect ten for this.

10) Rim jhim gire savan: Ramesh from the MBA college would sing this song wonderfully. Just as he would sing all Kishore hits well.

11) Main shayar badnaam: Satish Singh sings this soulfully - so intensely that you knew he was going through something intense. He sang it very well.

12) Ina meena deeka: Sanjay Reddy's trademark song all through. He still gets into an impromptu rendition of this song if given half a chance.

13) Saranga teri yaad mein: Ajay from OUCE would sing this song of Mukesh that I never heard of before. He'd sing it very well of course, but the original killed me.

14) Jalte hai jiske liye: My father loved this Talat Mahmood song from Sujata. I think I can do a decent version too.

15) Sunaina: My mom loved her music too and I remember her  being very fond of this song.

16) Aise na mujhe tum dekho: Shobhs loves this song and it is a bit of an anthem song for us. She loves a lot many songs as well but this is her signature song. The 'our' song.

17) Meri bheegi bheegi si: This song from Anamika is Ranjan's song and it appears he never tires of listening to it.

18) Breathless: When Vardha wanted to hear this song and could not recollect it, he did the best he could then - that English song! The Shankar Mahadevan song appears to be his favorite.

19) Forever in blue jeans: Madhav would be identified with this Neil Diamond surely. Kiri too perhaps. And Paul Anka seemed to do something to the HPS boys as well.

20) I just died in your arms: Naresh Raghavan, my music buddy, which is one of the closest shades of friendship in my opinion. Also Peter Cetera, Eye of the Tiger, Axel F and Pour some sugar on me ring a bell with him.

21) Summer wine: Reminds me of a girl at college who'd sing this divinely. I never heard this song before  that but have since got myself two versions of it.

22) Seene mein jalan: This boy who was Chanti's senior at REC, Warangal would apparently sing this song for one of her class mates, Monica. I first heard the full song many years later but was always impressed by what little I heard then.

23) Danger Zone: Vidyuth and I, music buddies at one time, because he introduced me to many new songs, listened to this song by Kenny Loggins some 20 times in a row (at my insistence) when we'd gone to Chennai on a cricket trip.

24) Bheegi bheegi raaton mein: Reminds me of the time Mom was ill. This song by Adnan Sami was part of a CD collection and a player that Ram bought for her and it would play on beautifully through those rainy days and nights.

25) Comfortably Numb: Kiri, because me and he went to the Roger Waters concert in Bangalore together and experienced the magic of this song, and Anil Menon, the greatest rock star of the Woodstock generation.

Not a bad 25 ka list. But I have a few more that make up this list and I will be back again to revisit this page.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Thought For The Day - Recognising The Good that Happpens to Us

Recognising the good that happens to us is perhaps one of the best things that one can do. It seems so obvious but is very hard to practice.

It is hard top practice because we expect our good to happen in a certain way, and as we look only for that, we ignore all the other good that is continuously happening to us. In big or small measure.

When we do this i.e. ignore the good that is happening to us and instead focus on what is not there, we remain in a state of unhappiness or resentment even. The idea that we are not lucky seeps in as well.

On the other hand there are those lucky and evolved few who see the good that happens to them in every little thing. They are in a constant state of wonder, of gratitude and of happiness. All that happens to them, whether designed or by default, big or small, is welcomed with a big smile. It is an inclusive, all encompassing, wondrous attitude that sees good as it is.

In that state, we grow the good that happens to us. We can not always say that certain things happened because of certain causes - and it is in this understanding that we must thank all the good that comes our way, one way or another, big or small.

This is the difference to me between the happy and the unhappy, the contented and the unsatisfied, the lucky and the unlucky. Recognise and welcome all the good that happens to you and witness the difference in the quality of your life.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Thought for the Day - Push Yourself To Understand the Mechanics of Your Mind

In many ways it does seem rather stupid to keep pushing oneself mindlessly and torturing oneself. Why push? Why not chill? Life ought to be easy my friend. It must flow like a river, like water.

I agree it must. But I guess we must also experience the intensity, the sheer physicality of effort once in a while if nothing but to understand the mechanics of the mind.

How does it start any process, what does it label it as, what are the limits it has set, what are the compromises it has made, what are the beliefs that guide it, how does it try to abort the process, how does it allow the process to happen, where does it convince itself that it has done enough, how and what helps it dig into deeper levels of strength to go on beyond the normal, where does it find the focus to rise above, to set new standards....

All this and more can be understood by watching the mind and its ways, its mechanics and its tantrums. And the best place to do it is when you push it beyond normal limits, beyond comfort zones. It will yell and squeal like a baby - but you must be firm, you must cajole, you must even fool it sometimes (just here, one second).

Once you know how to deal with it, one way or another, softly or harshly, you can go beyond it and reach deep down into great reserves of strength and focus, concentration and stillness. You will find tremendous clarity and conviction. You will find that you are capable of anything and everything.

The mind is not your master anymore, it is your pliant accomplice. instead of fighting you, it will now help you find greater treasures, bigger reserves.

Two Painting Jobs - The joy of being Children


An inspired piece of art by the two young artists one afternoon resulted in these two masterpieces. Presenting the two artists and their work.
Humble artists with their work behind them
 

Another wall - A more exuberant mood

It was all done in about half an hour's inspired work. By the time I looked in to check they were already exulting - and hungry. So I congratulated them, got them cleaned up and gave them something to eat.

A few days later we had to cover up the art owing to the arrival of some guests. One of the painters was at hand to help out with this second painting job too.



All's well and that ends well!


Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Anjali - How Can You Make the Best Better?

Can't beat this confidence. Shobhs was telling Anjali that we will try and look better by March i.e. lose weight, get fitter etc.

'But you're both fine,' said our one woman support staff incredulously.
Not wanting to disappoint her enthusiasm but also not wanting to ignore reality Shobhs said 'Yeah, but we'll try to get better.'

And that's when the young one stumped us with this -

'But how can you make the best even better.'

Ah, how I wish we had the same confidence in ourselves. But thanks Anjali, that helped a lot.

Monday, December 9, 2013

The Age of Kali - William Dalrymple

The Observer might have found it stunning but I thought this was the weakest by Dalrymple I have read yet (totally Indian versus the Outsider view). Probably early years was this, because he does not have the distance from the stories he tells in this book as he did in the City of Djinns.

Dealt with in 6 parts titled The North, In Rajasthan, The New India, The South, On the Indian Ocean and, Pakistan, the Age of Kali looks at an India, a Sri Lanka and a Pakistan from the view of someone who genuinely wants to look under the obvious. Which is good because Dalrymple has a knack for getting the right people, the persistence and the courage to follow up his stories despite the dangers of the tasks involved. If roaming the badlands of Bihar looked dangerous, wait until he walks into the Tamil Tigers den in Sri Lanka and traverses the lawless and trigger happy ammunition dumps in Pakistan. Dalrymple explores each story that interests him deeply and passionately and writes it down convincingly after having had a first hand experience. I envy him his journeys deep into India, parts that I have not been to and would love to, and admire him for bringing forth an India not many would bring to us Indians (our first reaction is to shove it under the carpet or color it). If anything the most dangerous aspect of his book appeared not the landmines or guns and terrorists but the ease with which he pulls down the rich and powerful and makes them into caricatures based on his experiences with them. Will they extend him the same affection and warmth the next time after reading his book I wonder, but maybe they might, for all we know because he has only reported what he experienced.

In the North he travels with Lalu Prasad Yadav and sketches the problems that besiege Bihar, meets student union leaders who are fully armed, travels into Vrindavan which is also called the city of widows where widows come to spend the rest of their lives in abysmal conditions and takes us on a rather cynical tour along with the Rajmata of Gwalior. In most cases he pokes fun at the leaders and is surprised at the extent of their knowledge or rather their ignorance, their insensitivity and their behaviors. He also writes of how the Indian middle class speaks (a manner reminiscent of the dialogues of Peter Sellers in The Party). I have heard Indians speak all my life - they do not speak like that. It does create a fun element but that is it to me. Don't expect the average Indian to talk or behave like that. (Unless perhaps, they reacted in a different manner to the gora sahib.)

In Rajasthan he covers stories of rape  victim and women empowerment agent Bahveri Devi by the local landlords, the caste wars and covers the death of Roop Kanwar, one of the last known incidents of Sati in modern India. In each incident he travels and meets the concerned people and gets some idea into why and what of the incident. That people thong the site of the Sati is a matter that shows the Indian rural psyche more than the horror of what the custom demanded of the women - to burn themselves on the pyre of their dead husbands alive. But then the focus in India today is on the amount of harassment women face, the way they are killed or forced to kill which we see everyday.

In Bombay we go to the swish set that he categorically slices through for its superficiality, choosing to go with one of its main patrons Shobhaa De, and exploring the upper crust. He shoots down Shobhaa De and her set with no difficulty - only I wonder at why one would do that when he is her guest. Nothing much to learn from this episode for me. In the next we travel to Bangalore and its KFCs and the anti-western agitations by farmers.

In Madurai we go to the Meenakshi temple and then come over to Hyderabad. I could not recognize the Hyderabad he painted through the eyes of his source despite having lived here for four decades though I fondly remembered the one palace that he touched upon - the Irram Manzil palace which is where my father worked as  Chief Engineer, National Highways a few decades ago. Gold, diamonds, wealth, Nizams, forgotten legacies, palaces etc flash through and a bleak look at the Hyderabad of today without its glamour and wealth. Further down south he goes to the temple of Parashakthi, the goddess who creates and destroys. All through he retains an air of skepticism that any rational mind may carry with beliefs in religion and ritual.

To Sri Lanka, Jaffna, meeting the Tamil Tigers and the Freedom sisters, giving us an understanding of what actually seemed to have happened, the countless deaths, the gore and violence, Dalrymple travels through landmine infested roads, meets Tamil generals, even the Freedom sisters and returns, having had enough of the violence. From there he moves on to some island in the Indian Ocean which was rather boring to me.

In Pakistan he meets Imran Khan and once again gives a rather disbelieving account of the cricketer, playboy and politician. He travels with Imran to shoot clay pigeons, meet some war lords, bump into police checkposts and discusses Pakistani politics from Imran's point of view but not fully - he keeps digressing into Imran's personal life and underlines a lack of credibility perhaps of a playboy-cricketer to do anything noble. From Imran he hops onto Benazir Bhutto and pulls her down even lower, expressing total disbelief that she should read Mills and Boons, or even find Freedom at Midnight an interesting read. Dalrymple says clearly that 'Freedom at Midnight' is total crap (or schlock) and must not be read by anyone who has any claims to be a leader or of anything to do with brainy activity. (While at that he also quotes someone who says that Imran is called Im the Dim with good reason). I cannot agree with this really - erudition is fine but leadership has nothing to do with that surely. It is good in the colleges and in discussions - leadership is not just that and in most cases may be hampered by such thought. So I am fine with the Mills and Boons and even Tom and Jerrys as long as one can lead.

There is a meeting with the people who were at Lahore during partition and well nothing that he has mentioned here disputes what the authors of Freedom at Midnight mentioned in their book. Killings aplenty in Lahore and Amritsar in what most people know is perhaps one of the world's biggest mass killing - thanks to whoever signed and decreed that there would be two nations made from one. Some more travels in the north west frontier and a meeting with Imran's Pir who tells Darlymple to focus on his Delhi book. We come to the end of the Age of Kali.

Dalrymple seeks to find the unsaid, the undiscovered and presents it well. The experiences he has chosen to have are not what many would want to, especially in India. I was also thinking that it perhaps is more difficult to do half the things that Dalrymple did in India as an Indian because suddenly all the biases come alive when an Indian shows up at the doorstep. Caste, creed, colour, community, region, language, sex and many more biases come up instantly. With the Indian obsession with fair skins and foreigners, it is much more easier to ask many questions and receive politically correct answers about honour and pride when it is pretty clear to all concerned that it is a crime that is being committed. Most westerners would find the book stunning and I am sure even I was impressed because Dalrymple presents a real story - its all true. But believe me, this runs deeper, through many more layers that it may not be easy to capture it in its entirety. The frame with which the  average Indian sees the world around him is colored by so many shades that it is impossible to take his or her behaviors or answers at face value. Rituals, dogmas, temples, gods, history all combine here and one can get a glance at best, from one angle.

Is this what exists in India today? It does. And it does not. I have heard of many of these incidents but are they common place? No. What is common place? That there is large scale looting by politicians. That there is lawlessness in some regions, some more than the others. That there are more bride burnings, suicides, honour killings that go on which cause concern and not the one Sati that happened. That there is violence that coexists comfortably a shade away from our lives just as ritual and faith healing does (in fact faith healing has many more interesting shades to it that the western mind cannot accept).

That most people barely sustain their lives but still get themselves a television and a satellite connection and a mobile phone. That the super rich and the super poor, the oppressors and the oppressed, share the same air and water, and find hope and laughter, puts the past behind them and go to the same temples, mosques, movies. uses the same transport ad so on and so forth. There are the odd pockets, the angles where the old mindsets may prevail, but by and large India and its present generation has its happy stories. Dalrymple chooses the bleak and hopeless stories that appeal more to an audience that perhaps sees it easier to get horrified, to judge, to wonder at this sort of a thing - but it cannot be very different in any society. Explore deep enough, scratch the oddball under the surface and lo, you will find all these characters and more in every society in the world. Whether they call it the Age of the Kali or something else we bother not. It is enough for me to see the little urchin on the road smile just as his mother does because they can find happiness in their existence and do not seek or need to find the horror in someone else's life to make their own seem good. For all those who are stunned, I would say, good for you chief. But hold that judgement. Its pretty much the same story everywhere - only the degree varies, the complexity varies.

But despite all that I feel, credit goes to Dalrymple for his work, for providing a view I could never have got. He still remains one of my favorite writers of history and of travel and I am waiting to get down to the next one by him.