Monday, June 15, 2015

Piku - Movie Review

Lovely movie. Buy the DVD and add it to the collection of movies one can watch later. It's timeless work. Reminded me of the Basu Chatterjee, Hrishikesh Mukherjee movies.

Amitabh Bachchan reinvents himself yet again but of all his new avatars this is the most endearing. He is palpably real as Bhaskor Banerjee and goes under your skin. Deepika Padukone is a revelation as Piku and Irfan Khan is perfect as the owner-driver. The get togethers - Moushumi Chatterjee stands out there - lunches and dinners, are wonderfully captured. Just as the detailed discussions of the digestive system and the many theories behind the behind.

Shoojit Sirkar, take a bow. Motion in emotion indeed. It could well be the first love story built around discussions on constipation. Watch it again. I certainly will. Love these characters.

Anjali - A Motivational Technique

Now, seven and a half, Anjali enjoys playing games - real and virtual. The other day we were playing a game of table tennis on Wii Sports. I was playing that game and was in a healthy lead of 4-1 (game finishes at 6 points). When I conceded a point carelessly she cautioned me - "Finish the game Nanna. If you lose more points, the other chap will win."

I lost another point.

'I will cheer both of you ok,' she said. 'I will cheer whoever wins a point.'

I was surprised. Why was she cheering the other fellow? I made up my mind not to let the fellow get any point. I played hard and soon finished the game.

She was happy.
'You know, I know a technique to make you play better,' she said.

What technique, I asked.

"When I cheer the other fellow you will get angry and play even better? That way you will win."

Wow.

'Where did you learn the technique?" I asked.

"Mansi taught me,' she said. 'The other day Mansi's brother Kushal and I were playing a game when Mansi started cheering Kushal loudly. I asked her why she was cheering him and not me, her friend, Mansi said - if I cheer him you will get angry and play well and beat him. That's where I learned this technique.'

Some man management technique, this. It was only in the last year that I was thinking how some of the biggest motivators were the barbs we faced in our lives. They sure are and find application in our daily lives it looks like.

Sole Sisters Run - A Tale of Two Marathon Runners

Sunita Tummalapalli and Anuradha Raju Kalidindi are sole sisters - bound by their passion for marathon running. Since 2008 (when they started on the journey) both have completed 20 full marathons and 2 ultra-marathons (as on date of the book). Their runs include some of the toughest in the world. That they found a passion like marathon running when most recede from life (they are both 45) and reclaimed with it, a large part of life that could have otherwise just gone by, is admirable and inspirational.

The story begins circa 2008 when they went on a trek to the Everest base camp and watched the Everest base camp marathon runners. Inspired by the sight of the runners running in conditions when even trekking was difficult for them, they decided to run the flat lands of Hyderabad to start with.They started working on the 'Hal Higdon' schedules, led by Sunita who had been a Reebok Fitness Trainer earlier. Anuradha was a first time runner. The duo prepared enough and completed the Hyderabad half marathon in November 2008. Soon they were running full marathons - Auroville, Hyderabad, Pittsburgh, Athens, Everest base camp. In 2013 they ran 13 full and ultra marathons.

Marathon running amazes me. It's a mind thing. There are no shortcuts- every step must be completed physically. You can only prepare for it and steel your body and mind. Sunita ran the tough Kepler Challenge ultra of 60 kms in new Zealand. Anuradha did the Bangalore Ultra (50 kms). Severe physical constraints - dehydration, cramps, stomach upsets are part of their story - but they always completed what they set out to achieve.

The journey grew them. People they met on the journey - Anuradha mentions an old lady of 70 kms who effortlessly ran the Kaveri trail and finished the run a whole hour before her - a humbling experience for her. Surely many such moments that kept them in touch with themselves.

Sunita and Anuradha  received complete support from their families. Rao Tummalapalli, Sunita's husband, a successful entrepreneur, is a friend of mine and I know his son Nikhil as a good cricketer who could have gone on to achieve greater heights in the game if he wanted. Rao was kind enough to send me a copy of this book and it was fascinating reading. I met Sunita once briefly but would love to connect with her and get more insights into the mind of a marathon runner.

The Hyderabad Runners Group, which has been instrumental in converting and growing many tentative beginners into full fledged runners, has been another huge support for them. Hyderabad Runners is rated as one of the best groups in the country with over 2500 members. My friend Ramaraju  is a huge fan of the way the Runners group motivates complete novices into running marathons. How do they do it, he asks, when I cannot make a person do a simple job well.

The sole sisters say - of pain - that its only temporary; if you look beyond it you shall achieve your dream. Running has given them discipline, confidence and resilience. An identity. It makes them feel good. It makes them respect life.

Marathon running is absolute reality. One either does it or does not - you cannot theorise about it. It's a journey of the mind, as it pushes the body beyond that seemingly last ounce of strength and opens up possibilities that did not exist before. You know then, that beyond the known there is a treasure, beyond pain there is a high. The runners high is the physical manifestation of the person we never knew existed within us, of the excellence within us. Its available to us if we dare to push boundaries.

Sole Sisters Run captures the highlights of the running career, till date of publication, of these two marathon runners. It's an inspiring tale compiled and edited by Lakshmi Chowdhari. As I read the highlights and saw the pictures, I wondered at how much Sunita and Anuradha had achieved in a short span of time. There are bigger stories surely, and I hope they do pen their stories more in detail so that many more can benefit from following a passion. I liked the sign off line - If I can, you can too.

Saturday, June 13, 2015

The Paradoxes of Life - Now Is Eternity, Forever is Now

Now is the only reality. So act. Eternity is not some far off place. It's now.

We cannot save up now for later. Any saving up behavior gives away our inability to deal with the present moment. It indicates our reluctance to live fully.

There's no later. Handle the present moment.

Now.






The Paradoxes of Our Lives - To Move, Stay Grounded

To move from where you are, to fly, ground yourself first.
In the here and now. In what is.

Being grounded provides traction to move.

If you're not in touch with the here and now, dreams remain dreams - distant fantasies. There is no traction.

To get a move on, stay grounded.

Stay aware.


Lovely Video - The World Is Beautiful After All

Thought for the Day - What Is Is, There Is No Other

A large portion of stress is created by wanting to be in some place other than where we are right now. It holds for everything - physically, in your career, in relationships. Yeh di maange more! Dump what is there, we want what is not there.
No. I don't want to be here! I want to be some far off place.
For example. We want to be in Switzerland (like all our friends on fb are!). We cannot get there right now for whatever reasons. But we want to be there badly. We hope something will happen. When something does not happen we feel bad for ourselves. Why didn't something happen? What is this life? Why?  Why? (I can feel the stress rising! Even though I don't really want to be in Switzerland)

Something will not happen by itself of course. You have to do something about it. Other than cribbing.

The point is not really about Switzerland is it? Switzerland is just an excuse to stay unhappy. If you wanted to go, you'd go. You'd do something about it.

The point is really about the consciousness that could make the quality of our life as good - here in the ordinary life or in Switzerland. Or wherever.

By being here and now. Being in 'what is'.

'What is' is this. What is is 'not Switzerland'. Its what's here. Ordinary. Mundane. Boring. Nothing more. Nothing less. It's not your memory of what it used to be. Its not your fantasy of your future. It is exactly what it is. Warts and all.

Look closely.

If one can get comfortable with that, it's possible that one could get unstuck. And then one can move freely.

Welcome to 'what is'.