Thought for the Day - Why We Allow Only Some to Hurt Us

It's interesting. But we allow only some people to hurt us. Most others we don't care but there are a few people in our lives who we give the power to (most times with no real reason).

With these people who we give the power to - we feel they have understood us (or perhaps we would like to believe that they understand us). And in our desire to be understood and to understand them, we open ourselves up, show our most vulnerable selves and voila- even a whiff of air that goes the other way hurts.

Why we do that is perhaps our desire to have someone understand us to the level of vulnerability we have opened up to. But that's not their problem - it's ours. We cannot trade our vulnerability to their understanding. 

What's the solution? I guess it's to understand ourselves first and not expect the world to understand us. By that I mean that we choose not to get hurt but still be open and vulnerable. 

It's a fine balance - needs practice. A lot of practice. And understanding of our self.